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I need help I’m a 21 year old guy who’s been out of work since late July early August it stared with panic attacks and I got help with those and I’m glad to say I’m over them but I think I’m severely depressed help me! My therapist thinks that it’s not genuine clinical depression but caused by dealing with my issue of health anxiety for so long but I just feel so awful all the time that I just want to burst into tears. Please tell me it’s not that bad tell me I don’t have depression I’m just so scared that I feel so bad that I’m gonna end and I don’t want to I feel my eyes welling up as I frantically write this

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Everything is going to be okay, right now your over thinking every little aspect as possiable. your thinking of the worst instead of postive stuff. tell yourself your going to be okay, try to train your brain not to fear things,not to over think things. You can do this. You will get through this! your strong! KEEP MOVING FORWARD.

hi im sorry to hear of your struggles being out of work can add to your anxieties because you start to worry recent was your appointment with the doctor maybe you can have another appointment for a second opinion.your therapy will help and hopefully things will improve for you.

Message me brother. Lets get through this.

Im sorry u r feeling like this. You're not alone.

Please dont put so much pressure on yourself. I know that you need to work and I understand that but by putting pressure on yourself you are putting more stress on yourself. Instead of saying " I gotta get job now" say " Im going to take it day by day. I will do my best on every interview"

Maybe u need to brush up on your interviewing skills.

What about having the label of depression scares you? It’s all about how your feeling label or not

I feel sorry for you. Life is hitting you all at once. Not to freak you out but I think your doctor is right about the anxiety causing the depression. It sounds stupid but constantly being anxious and having panic attacks is depressing. In my case, I have been constantly anxious my whole life and I get depressed because I can’t control it. See...I’m with you.

One day at a time. Don’t think too far ahead. I know it’s hard not to but...

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I can’t say whether or not you have clinical depression but I think you are depressed. I’m sorry to hear this on one so young as yourself! Your therapist can prescribe some antidepressants for you for the short term. They take about 4 weeks to feel their effects but can help you over this ! Also try to be as. active as you can. Go for a run, lift weights take a dance class. It really does help. I hope you keep in touch and let me how things are going for you!

Hi bengdmn,

I suspect that your therapist is spot on.

I recommend listening to Dr. Claire Weekes' audio and getting her book, Hope and Help for your Nerves (called Self Help for your Nerves in Europe). I recommend studying these things like you were going to be tested on it. I believe she wrote them specifically for you, not kidding! She describes so clearly how anxiety often leads to depression. She also describes how the anxiety-panic-depression pattern unfolds so it's no longer such a bewildering mystery, and precisely what to do to reverse the pattern. I hope you are feeling better soon :)

My battle with depression anxiety started at age 21 go to your doctor or get another one you sound severely depressed and need an antidepressant right now to help you through it and there's no shame in that sweetie please please please also finds other people you can talk to I have a tendency to isolate still and I've been dealing with this for over 20 years most of all don't you dare give up life can and will be better and last but not least I don't know if you're a believer in Christ but you need that that you need that hope right now go to God the Lord Jesus Christ to come into your heart to forgive you of your sins and he will do that he will love you forever and you will never be alone and he will never let you go I know how this disease makes you feel like your flawed let me tell you something it's the depression making you feel that way it's not you don't be afraid of it you will get through it please don't be ashamed to take medication one of the first ones that actually worked for me was Prozac the generic is called Fluoxetine find a doctor that will help you with medication for most people people medication is not a lifelong thing that you have to do for me it has become a lifetime thing I've had to stay on it for many years and that's okay too Lord I pray for this young man bring him to yourself and comfort him he gets the help that he truly needs and not to feel ashamed of it or afraid of it because of some stupid up idea Honor Society that tells us if we're depressed we are weak that is a lie you hang on because you're going to get through this I'm going to give you my phone number I don't even care if I don't know you I know the suffering I know how depression can make you feel my name is Jackie and you can text me anytime I'm old enough to be your mother but I still have very young children I live in Florida text anytime and I will do my best to help you hold on.. God has a plan 4 your life He is good and wants good things for you

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Being out of work can be a very humiliating experience. You're constantly trying to prove your worth to possible employers, even your friends and family. Keeping a brave face feels like a mask that doesn't fit. It can be a vicious cycle that gets you very low. I've burst into tears in the social services line. Collected food from a from the free pantry service- humiliating just to sign up for it. I feel for you. Even at this very difficult time, especially at this time, be good to yourself. It's okay to have a moment to gather yourself together. It can be interesting meeting various people during the interview and search process. Networking by getting out of the house, even just for lunch, is fun and healthy. If you have the finances and can take a bit of time, join a group of like-minded folks. Just be careful to keep any volunteer work within reason. It's easy to over extend your precious time. Most of all, keep talking with us here. This fabulous group is here to help you out. When you're in a better place, you can throw a hand to us.

Oh please know you are strong! Pump up with some vitamins for men, get out in the outdoors and find what you gives you peace and rest

I fought taking medication for years and looking back it was just a hinderance to a better quality of life! Things will get better but you will have to try another approach such as medication. I have bad anxiety and mild depression as well.

Taking medication or having depression isnt a death sentence! Plus it doesn't mean that you would have to take medication permanently but its just a temporary assistant to help you!

* (Remember if you end up taking medication it may get worse before it gets better because the medication will do that.)*

The apostle John said that the purpose of his gospel was that we believe in Jesus as the Son of God,

John 20:31 “but these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that believing you may have life in His name.

”What does it mean to “believe?” The word “believe” means trust. We are to trust that He is the Son of God and that he died four our sins.

John 5:24 “Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life.”

This means two things:

1. We must admit that we have violated a perfect God (no matter how small the sin).

2. We must trust on the fact that Jesus paid fully for our sin by His death on the cross.

“Father, I have sinned against you. I have no hope of eternal life other than Jesus dying for my sin. I trust His death for forgiveness of my sin. In Jesus name, Amen.”

We let the mind rule. Books of Eckhart Tolle-A new Earth and Power of now, greatly helped me understand how the mind operates. If we let it, it goes on a tear. Becoming the observer of the mind and letting go of those "drama between the 2 ears" helped me a great deal. During the day, he suggest we ask whats going on inside us. Usually we are not acceptance a situation and the ego puts a spin around that situation. Morning meditation helps a lot. I use binaural beats on youtube for 15 minutes everyday. There are so many of them, you can play with them, switching to a different one everyday. Find job that is available, and then look for other ones as you keep your focus on your inner self.


Hey! I 100% understand how you are feeling. I’ve been dealing with this very same thing. All you can do is keep going to therapy, maybe try medication, find a support system, and get LOTS of rest. Just breathe and know that everything is gonna start feeling better soon. We’re all here for you on this website

Try this …..

It a means to take your mind off of what you are worrying about and to try and find focus.

Think of five things you can see.

Think of four things you can touch.

Think of three things you can hear.

Think of two things you can smell.

Think of one thing you can taste.

In times of feeling overwhelmed, it helps to try and distract your mind. The idea is to try and use a different object or item every time you use these steps. I also have what I call the ABC game. Thinking of objects or items that start with A - apple, B - Balloon, C - Cloud. At the same time thinking about what they look like and/or smell like, taste, shape or feel, etc. You could try grouping them, by staying with flowers that begin with the letters of the alphabet, states, or cities, stuff like that. Your brain is racing and you need to try and slow it down. I know it seems childish, but it could be worth a try. I use it when my mind starts to race as I am home alone a lot at night.

Hope this can help somewhat!

Saying my prayers for you it'll all work out go for a walk do something that you really like to do watch funny movies get your mind off of not finding a job you will find something out there that's just right for you. You are still young and have a wonderful future ahead of you

Everything will be alright! Don't worry, take a deep breath, we are here for you.

Sorry that you’re going through this. It sounds awful. I’ve been there in the past (Im in my 50s) and trust me things will get better. St the moment you’re stuck in a put but there are ways out.

Being out of work can have a seriously debilitating effect on the mind, again, I know cos I’ve been there. But things WILL get better for you I guarantee.

Now, as to specifics, what yout therapist said? I’m not a professional and s/he is, so what do I know. But imho the division between anxiety and depression is not as clear as some might think, there is an overlap. I’ve seen it in friends and myself.

In my opinion (again, I’m not a qualified professional) you might benefit from a time-limited course of antidepressants. It sounds from what you’ve said that you’re depressed, just my view. Could your GP prescribe something?

And please remember: there is no shame or embarrassment in being depressed or anxious, so many people are living (quite well) with these conditions and with the help of therapy and medication, you’d be surprised. Around 30% of my work colleagues are on some sort of AD.

Good luck! Let us know how you’re getting on. You have people here in whom you can confide in who’ve been there themselves.

Bless you sweet heart. I am so sorry to hear you are struggling with anxiety! It is awful and so scary. I know exactly where you are right now. I was there 4 years ago and it has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. You can and will get better! I had it so bad I could not eat, sleep, or function. I am so much better and you will be too. I found some really good videos on you tube that have really helped me.

I thought I had every disease out there. I have been tested for everything and it always comes back normal. You are going to be okay. One thing to think of is if you ever notice, we all have the exact same symptoms. Once you accept that it is anxiety and nothing else, you can begin to heal. We are all here for you.

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