I am due to have Dental Implant Surgery tomorrow
Today I reflected in my life and at the treatment received from my Mother in the past
Also I am trying to re enter law but due to lack of experience and the age it is increasing difficult
There is nothing like facing your greatest fear to see how in hindsight how life’s lessons have either taught us what is important
I expect I am trying to find employment but the teeth and implants are a fear I have to face
Mum is tired of seeing my applications being rejected because law is incredibly competitive
She has come for two months and for the first month I was quiet
But this morning due to me telling her that her friend damaged one of her properties all hell broke loose
I am a rotten daughter and simply not good enough
I have to walk on egg shells as she came to support me for the dental treatment
Remember Roukaya that this is your life and not your mothers.
When all is said and done, you and you alone are responsible for the
choices you make in life. We are not here to please others including our
moms. Good Luck with your implant surgery tomorrow.
The "smile" you see looking back on you will give you the confidence and
self esteem in going forward. I wish you well xx
thanks for reply
I am a child’s in my Mothers eyes
As Hypercat said , I can never reason with a Narcissist
I too was a child to my mother. She never treated my sister like that.
I was told what to do and what was expected of me from early childhood
to adult. It wasn't until I made and stuck to the decisions I made for myself
in adulthood that I was truly happy.
I never waivered even through the insults and belittling. She is gone now
and I am the person I was meant to be. I respected my mother when she
was alive. It's sad when I think back in how she couldn't be proud of me while
she was here. Be true to yourself. xx
my Mother is giving me the silent angry treatment.
Good advice to make decisions and to take responsibility for the decisions we make .
I have been trying since 2000 to qualify as a Solicitor this did not work out
I have since restudied in 2017 and obtained a Probate Law Diploma and I am currently studying for Conveyancing and Landlord and Tenant
I am having Dental implant treatment tomorrow and my Mother is angry I told her how she treated me in the past
The reality is that I must face a choice to keep trying in law or give up and do something related to what I have studied
I have wanted to practice law for years but due to competition and candidates who have better educational attainment, I am rejected
I realise you understand and have achieved your aims and this is a great sense of fulfilment
I have been a good daughter but today when I confronted her treatment, she exploded
I have to walk on eggshells until she goes back in a month
I will never be good enough but I will need to make a decision whether to give up trying to qualify in law
I do understand Roukaya..could it be your mother's influence that is interferring
in getting what you want? My mother always wanted me to follow in her footsteps
as an executive secretary to a large firm. It was not my cup of tea although I would
have been qualified.
I choose the medical field, less pay, longer hours but I was happy.
When we can't get exactly what we dreamed of wanting all our lives, maybe
taking a sub speciality in that field will be just as satisfying for you.
My best to you xx
thank you for reply
I am trying to find a very humour and entry level role to start again
Even this is near impossible
It may be beneficial to avoid the para legal and enter at the FCILEx level and then transition across once you have acquired full standing. There are LLCs that are struggling for supervised FCILEx conveyancing staff in places like Cornwall and the more rural parts of the north east of England.
Thank you for your reply
I am waiting to attend the dental implant treatment.
I am trying to qualify for the CLC Licensed Probate Practitioner route and studying for the CLC in Conveyancing and Landlord and Tenant.
I am simply seeking a qualifying work experience but you seem very knowledgeable.
Are you Fellow of the Cilex