how to deal with a love one death?

[bobbypiri]

i miss my mom so much, she passed away on 21st of november, and i think i cant handle not being around her, im always tired but always sleeping. eating a lot of shitty food or not eating at all, wish i could have someone to talk to

[Celinesnana]

Hello. I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mother is an intense pain, I know it. You can stand it. You can move forward. Your mother would not want you suffering. Grieve but honor her by living your life the best way you can. Your part of a community now so reach out when you need to. Tahoe good care of yourself snd Jean on family and friends.

[Lou3169 in reply to Celinesnana]

That's such a beautiful reply and so true ❤️

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Hi, dear. I am so very sorry for your loss. It takes time. Grief has no time limit (nor a set timeline, you'll feel what you feel when you feel it). I lost my mom in August 2021. I have entire days when the pain of her loss is unbearable. I can even be okay one moment and unbearably sad the next. Taking care of you is paramount, especially in your time of grieving. While you'll never stop grieving her, the heartache does become more bearable with time.

[Lou3169]

Hi sweetheart.. I'm so sorry for your loss.. just like another member added, your dear Mum would nit want you to be suffering, she would want you to succeed and get on with your life, I know it sounds easier said than done... Grieving the passing of a loved one is a process, small steps, have u looked into joining any groups local to you ( for greiving) not just online... Sending you love and light ❤️ 😇

[kenster1]

hi sorry to hear about your dearest mum god bless her. we have a little forum here called bereavement care and share only a small community but very supportive and understanding and could be a useful form of support to you. god bless and take care.

[Arymretep]

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[Dolphin14 in reply to Arymretep]

Let me take that down.

Bones was here overnight

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[Arymretep]

I’m so sorry to hear about your dear Mum, and you are so young, I. lost mine many years ago but she is still with me and my Dad, and I think of them every day, they will always be with us in spirit.

Those that live in the heart of others never die.💞

[TryingSoHard66]

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing my Mom was the most intense pain I ever felt in my life and I know I will miss her the rest of my life.

It’s a very hard process you are going through, this grieving.

Please take good care of yourself, as your Mom would do for you if she were still here. Eat good food, get enough sleep, get hugs from people still in your life, do some fun things now and then, work when you should.

Cry when you need to. It’s okay.

I kept a journal for years where I wrote to my Mom when I missed her. I still have it but can’t look at the pages anymore because they are filled with so much sadness, I can’t bear it.

But it made me feel like I really was talking to her again, and it helped.

I had a couple of dreams where I felt I spent time with her again, and that helped so much too.

It won’t always hurt this badly. You will always miss her, but you will find joy in life again, I promise.

🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️

[RoseyViolet]

Hi Bobby, I'm so sorry that you are in the throws of grief and suffering over the loss of your Mom. I do understand all of the "feels" that you are describing. My Sister passed from a rare form of cancer 2.5 years ago and I well remember the grief process and the pain so intense that it felt like my heart was literally breaking inside of my chest.

Give yourself time, go through all of the stages of grief, they are actually intended to heal you through the process, but try really hard not to get stuck in one stage. It's easy to stay stuck in a lot of things because I think we kind of feel a "badge of love" that we are displaying over our loved ones. Ask yourself this, "Would my Mom want me to stay stuck in grief and pain?" No, most likely not, she loved you so much and would want the best for you. Honor her by attempting to begin to adopt a new normal every single day as you move through the stages of grief and healing and love your memories of her. Share what was awesome about her with others. Don't deny or not speak of her since she's passed on, but honor her by making her a part of all of the good that you are left with and the lessons she taught you and the person you are today because of her love. Her DNA is literally a vital part of who you are, so she's essentially walking alongside you every single day. Be good to you, she would want you to be good to you. Each day will get marginally better and better, deep breaths... it's going to be okay, it will just be a different version of okay.