Heartbreak

[MultifandomOtaku]

My heart is hurting. This guy I was talking to blocked me even though he said he loved me. He was narcissistic and gaslighted me but I still loved him. He threatened a restraining order if I called him and messaged my mom saying he'd call the cops if I called him. Despite that I still want to and I don't know how to make myself not.

Coping skills aren't working and I don't know what to do my soul just hurts and I miss him. I also have no friends

[PeaceandWar]

Block him. The best way to get over a man is to get a new one. Quickly.

[Sabbath1 in reply to PeaceandWar]

I agree, except for the part about getting a new one quickly. Men are the worst.

She just needs to Block him and remember he's a sock cutter .

[Orneb]

I’m really sorry to hear that. Remember that your self worth doesn’t come from anyone else. You need to respect yourself. This is much easier said than done, but know that you deserve to be treated with respect.

It’s not easy. But being able to be alone is important. If you find yourself needing to be in a relationship to feel happy, that’s not good.

“Your partner is your compliment, not your missing piece.”

Stay strong. You can get through this.

[Graciehope]

Hi. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this! You sound just like me in that I would stay with my guy and be in love with him even though he was narcissistic and gaslighted me. I stayed with him for 10 years, had a baby son by him, and married for 4 years. I have a problem where I get obsessed with a guy, especially if he breaks it off with me. I will call over and over obsessively. I never went to a therapist about my obsessiveness but I probably should have as it caused me a lot of pain. Pain that I could feel physically in my heart. I’m 58 now but I remember being and doing like you described. I’m better now but I do still exhibit some obsessive behavior if I feel that something or someone is going to be taken away from me or someone thinks badly about me. I believe my obsessiveness stems from being emotionally abandoned by my mother when I was young. Please seek counseling. I hate thinking that you’ll go through your life with this like I did.