In need of some advice…

[celestw]

so my ex-boyfriend lost feeling for me and broke up with my a little over a week ago, we where only together for two months but i really really liked him, but he suddenly lost feelings for me and said that we “don’t click” which left me confused because i was really happy with him, reguardless i understood his stance and i know there’s nothing i can do to change his mind. The only problem is i still see him a lot because he goes to my school, is in the same student organization as me, etc. and whenever i see him i feel so awkward, and it feels weird to go from dating eachother to basically being complete strangers…I still want to remain on good terms with him, i still miss him but i understand we aren’t right for each other but i at least want to occasionally say hi if i see him or something, but idk if he wants that, idk if he even wants to hear from me ever again. It just hurts really bad to see him talking to everyone else around me but i’m still invisible, it makes me wonder if he ever even actually cared or if he’s just giving me space. I wanted to talk to him about it but i’m honestly afraid to talk to him at this point, it’s been causing me a great deal of anxiety. Would talking to him and letting him know how i feel in regards to him would be worth it?? Idk what if he hates me! I mean i didn’t do anything bad to him and he told me that i did nothing wrong but i can’t help but blame myself like i wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, outgoing enough. I feel really stupid because we where only together for 2 months but..he was my first boyfriend. Should i talk to him?

[celestw]

true you’re right i just feel weird because we’re in the same group so i see him all the time and is even friends with ppl im close with, i don’t wanna be upset every single time i see him because i’m gonna see him a lot so i wanted to tell him i wanted to at least be on good terms, but i’m afraid to talk to him

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi CW.

Ur at the beginning of life & I don't mean to be rude but I said this to my daughters too.

Concentrate on ur education first then worry about boyfriends but by then U have sorted out ur careers too. But that's to mu own children.

U can say hi to him by all means & U've said U understand it can't go backward but remember that if he ever comes back asking lol.

That's all I can offer U from a dad's point of view .

Do remember the future isn't set yet so no rush.

[Sabbath1]

Tell him you still wanna be friends? Nothing more. If he doesn't want that then well.. maybe he was only after one thing that he either got or tried to get, gnomesayin . But there's no need to be afraid to talk to him if it was only 2 months and you see him all the time and I'm assuming were friends before this happened. Just don't be that "crazy" person who keeps asking why he broke up with you kind of thing

[bethelbee]

You are young and will meet many other guys. My opinion, time to move on..

[Brokenbeardedbear]

Youre not stupid. Feelings are so high and feel like everything when its your first boyfriend. (Even it can feel like this with any relationship). Its really natural. Im really sorry for the pain youre going through. I hope youre ok and looking after yourself. I promise, youre not stupid. You just gave alot of yourself to someoone and now it feels like a betrayal and sadness that it wasn't appreciated. You don't deserve that. You deserve to meet a guy who will appreciate you for you and want nothing more and nothing less. Please take good care of your health and mind while you recover as you deserve this. My heart gos out to you. 💜

[Hidden]

celestw, you sound very, very young. I want to be delicate when I tell you that right now this relationship seems like the only relationship you will ever have, and this boy is the most important person in your life, but I can assure you, in literally a year or two, you'll look back on this and laugh at the seriousness of it all.

He didn't break up with you because he hates. You were never going to spend the rest of your life with your first boyfriend, and that's a really good thing. You are going to grow mentally over the years, and that's going to change who you're attracted to.

Give the boy space. He's young and probably doesn't know how to handle the emotions of a young girl. Focus on building friendships and passing school.

You have your entire life to let boys ruin it, ha!

[emmi331]

It's horrible to be anxious over seeing someone every day after a relationship has gone belly-up. (Don't ask me how I know this). This is a good time for your personal growth - keep your cool, be the bigger person and greet him in a pleasant way when you see him, but nothing more. When you're in a group with him and he's chatting with everyone but you, turn to a friend nearby and converse quietly. And keep in mind Judge Judy's words - "In five years, you won't even remember what this guy looked like."

[Tara52]

I am sorry you were used and discarded this way. You sound like a very sweet girl and don't deserve this kind of treatment. Two months isn't a very long time to be considered someone's girlfriend. Did he say he wanted to be in a committed relationship with you? You both are so young to be exclusive. Take your time to get to know someone before getting sexually intimate is the safest thing to do. (I wish I heeded this advice at 19).🥺