My landlady reported me to social services this week because she heard my child screaming. My child always screams, she's a child, she screams when she's excited FFS.
Now she's got workmen in drilling the walls, sounds like it's in my place. It's giving me a headache. My mail comes in wet. So wet I couldn't even read a letter from a friend. She has no respect for me whatsoever but knows she holds all the cards because I can't afford to live anywhere else. And because I work the 'social' won't help at all. This country is a joke and leaves people living like animals while others can do what they like without repercussions.
And they wonder why some of us are so messed up mentally.
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It could be important letter even doctors appointment - you should have spoken up and stood your ground Saying this could even be your work letter Some understanding please
Hi I am so sorry to hear this and I understand how you feel - really I do. I am in the UK too and have battled mainly depression for many years.
I have received little help and long ago realised that no one really cares. Because I mainly managed to keep in work I was considered high functioning even though I always had a lot of problems dealing with work and found myself unemployed at times due to my mental health issues.
I finally managed to get my state pension 3 years ago and my life is now so much better and easier thank goodness. But along with age often comes health problems and I have got some now. Nothing that is going to kill me though at times I wish it would. I know there is nothing for me in this society and no money available to help me. If I ever needed an ambulance then I might well be dead by the time it got here.
I have a small private pension too and due to rises in it and the state pension I am now dragged into the income tax bracket again and lose one fifth of it due to the tax allowances being frozen again.
This country is going fast to hell in a handcart and basically if you need help you can whistle for it.
I do feel very sorry though for you younger people caught in the trap of the lack of homes and very high rents and house prices. Along with the financial squeeze which endless severe austerity brings to most of us. I don't know how many of you are going to manage in the future and it's awful to think about.
I managed to buy a small flat many years ago and am now mortgage free thank goodness. I would hate to be renting in this day and age.
The only good thing is that we do have a much more comprehensive benefit system than some countries, especially the USA, so in theory no one would starve. Hopefully.
It's an awful way to have to live isn't it? Worried about basic survival and needs being met.
Keep your chin up and remember things often improve when you least expect them to. Take care.
wow so sorry to hear this! And yes in the US mail tampering is a federal offense. How about UK? Hang in there, be kind to yourself and don’t let her crap rub off on you. Don’t claim her energy. Hugs to you.
My goodness, what a nightmare you are going through. I'm not sure where you live but in my area, New Jersey USA, there are very strict laws that govern harassment in the form that you are experiencing. We can easily call the police and they will almost always issue a citation which will require our nuisance neighbors to appear in court. Of course no one wants that, so we have pretty good results when it comes to problems like yours. Especially when it comes to our rent controlled areas, we have even more protections to safeguard against asshole neighbors. I can't fathom what you and your family are going through
So sorry to hear of your difficulties. I have experienced better results in these situations to pray and ask our Higher Power to bring light and Divine harmony into the situation and the atmosphere will change for the good. 💞
So sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately there are very bad people in this World. I lived through hell at my last apartment complex. The tenants were horrible. I had to move. A tenant was accusing me of making noise all night. He was psychotic. The Property Management moved him to another apartment and he still accused me of making noise! I had to get out. I feared for my life.
I wish I had some advice, sounds like the landlady is a bitch and there's no help out there for you, maybe you should find a legal, passive aggressive way to torment her back that she can't trace to you and bask in the warm feeling you get of seeing her suffer. You can download the book "The Art of War" for free off of Project Gutenberg.
hello it’s nice to meet you and talk with you so I am going through a lot of the same issues where I live too I live in a low income housing and the management are always threatening me, bullying me and I don’t feel comfortable with how they treat me and other people they are so rude I don’t so sorry that you are going through this it’s not right or ok I am here for you have you tried calling someone higher up to help or did that not work either
Thanks for the replies guys, didn't expect so many on this rant.
To clear things up, it's a private rental of part of a property with multiple occupants, including the landlady/owner. Which explains the mail.
The UK does have laws as well as the US, but from my experience, laws here are a waste of time. Our police force now are almost completely useless. Everything is so underfunded that issues are passed around from place to place until they are forgotten. Problems with neighbors? Pass it to the council. Problems with kids? Pass it to social services. Unless it's an obvious crime and happening right now, they probably wouldn't respond at all. They don't even respond if your house is robbed! Something like noise pollution for example can take months and requires you yourself to provide the proof!
So it's down to complaining. And as she can kick me out without reason and with only a month of notice, she holds all the cards. She can be as awful as she likes.
I don't know if it's as bad in the US, but here... Well, I don't know why we even have laws any more.
What does it say in ur tenancy contract also if she being an arse about things , then get to ur local council & tell them that this is what's going on& U have a child too & that she is being a total C U Next Tuesday.
Hope U got back up plans . But make sure U speak to the authorities. At least U have something registered in writing too.
Make sure U are give the correct amount of notice. Remember it's a sellers market right now & londoners are building up their portfolio's so she may want to sell. Tell that to te Social too.
Unfortunately it's none of that. I earn what I consider to be a decent figure for the average working man, so much so that I wonder how the hell people who earn less manage at all. It's enough to pay rent, but I'm too old for a mortgage and have too much self respect to go the benefit route. I'm NOT disrespecting those that genuinely require benefits before anyone thinks that by the way...
No, she's well within her rights and more than likely hasn't thought or cared about consequences. I imagine she believes she's done/doing the right thing and won't entertain any disagreement. Typical of many people these days.
Oh, and I don't always have my child, so literally no one cares. The council don't care as my daughter has a 'proper' home, and my place isn't it. And I have a job so there's no support, financially or otherwise.
I guess it's the typical story of the man in a failed relationship where children are involved having little to no support. My personal renting issue just makes it all the worse.
I'm one day away from homlessness, and this system, no matter what it may say when soundbytes are important, absolutely does not care.
So, I have to put up and shut up. It's as simple as that.
Again, no wonder so many people suffer mental health when the system consistently makes you feel worthless. And thanks to an ignorant millionaire who has no idea what it's like to live a normal life, the taxes are all going up, just to make it even harder to survive. Yay.
Firstly thank U for sharing & as I was reading that U have a daughter & thought u need to rent a 2 bed flat , as ur child gets older she can't not have her own room . Honestly get ur name on the housing list not for ur sake but the future & ur child's too . Its got to be really hard for U as when my now ex wife left me with my daughters it was tough but we had bought our own house & me & the girls remained in the home until we sold up & moved closer to my side of the family & we've not looked back since.
I'm only suggesting mind as I know as a father U want to provide her with shelter that U know isn't going to be snatched away from U in an instant. Also its better in the long run to be on a list before U are made homeless as then some councils put U in a refuge & I doubt U would want ur child to see that.
As U said it seems no one cares & councils are number 1 jerks that virtually are sat in a car freezing before they say , if U said u had a child then there would've been help long ago but u already told them that & of course being in the vicinity of where the mom's home is & it's a massive headache & stress filled too.
I'm rambling but I do have that first hand knowledge & treatment by those that seem to want to put me on a roulette wheel with no chance of landing on any number.
I wish U the luck of the universe in easing ur stress & even if the land lady is bang to rights , its ur child & things didn't live happily ever after but no need to be cruella deville like.
Have U looked at the cost of renting a 2 bed flat/house ?
Anyway I wish U all the best little brother as I know how hard it is to be a good dad let alone all the other responsibilities life throws at us.
Thanks for your continued replies friend. I've looked at renting elsewhere and continue to do so daily, but rent is now a joke. More than a grand for a room in a house? People are taking advantage. To rent a 2 bed can cost almost all my wage, and like I say, I'm not even on a low wage. I'm in one of the worst areas of the country but have my job and can't move too far from her mother so I'm stuck.I guess the council list is an option, but talking with people around me, it seems council rent isnt much less than private these days. I guess that's another thing the current government is trying to get rid of.
I need to find a partner, we would be laughing if there was two of us 😂 I'll keep looking and keeping my fingers crossed.
Cost of rent where U live could well be different & private rental is costing so much with the crisis we are in.
Council housing is currently I believe ur best option as U wish to remain in the area as U wish to spend as much time as U can with ur daughter & I don't know about ur local council but where I live they had a lot one bed homes/flats as the majority of people are family's wanting 2 bed + houses.
So a suggestion , get urself on the list & look for 1 bed flats that are council stock & U will hopefully land on ur feet & currently there 2 adult parents having to claim universal credit as they are unable to cover everything .
As much as U may feel ur local council are falling others but U have a good chance as Ur daughter & her safety & wellbeing is paramount.
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