How to move on

[SadMinnie]

I'm 33 years old and I've been struggling with depression and anxiety since I was 10. I had a life with a lot of traumatic experiences and, although I have access to treatments I still don't feel like I'm getting any better. I'm stuck inside my body, I find hard to get up in the morning, find it hard to move, to interact with people. I read cases of people that lived a life of traumas and over come the depression and live a happy functional life and I wonder how did they do that. Where does the strength to move on comes from. From waking up, to work,have relationships. But there also the people that give up and can't handle this life anymore. Where does the strength comes from? I just want to know if it will come for me one day or if I'll become one of those people who give up. Thank you

[OB73]

i feel the same way but don't you give up we are here for you sweetness....🙂😊

[SadMinnie in reply to OB73]

Thank you!! 💜

[just_keep_swimming]

for me the strength came from shattering those things I was afraid of this is really hard and I am still working on it . I would say everyday just keep trying , keep trying to progress because once you digress it can be hard to keep going .

[SadMinnie in reply to just_keep_swimming]

Thank you! I try to keep going but recently it became very hard and I ended up hurting myself. I just hope one day stops being so hard to wake up everyday 😢

[just_keep_swimming in reply to SadMinnie]

no problem, I understand , it can be really rough . I think one day it is possible as long as you keep trying .

[SadMinnie in reply to just_keep_swimming]

I will try

[Hidden]

There is always hope. Don’t give up. Have you tried going to some kind of therapy? I’ve been through a lot myself. Awhile back I was in a bad car accident where I’m very lucky I didn’t get hurt but the car was totaled beyond fixing . Since then I walk and take buses places. It took me some time to feel comfortable driving again. With trauma I think you pick up the pieces and you try to move forward.

[SadMinnie in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! Yes, I'm currently on therapy but sometimes after it I feel even worse as if speaking about my traumatic experiences made me live it all again. I thought that if I cried and spoke about the pain things would get better but it actually feels like being hurt all over again 😢

[Hidden in reply to SadMinnie]

It’s okay, you’re just processing it. Healing takes time. 🙂

[Raggedy-Ann in reply to SadMinnie]

Hi Minnie. I have certain events I have packaged up tight and buried in the dark. I do not want to talk about them. Just the thought of one thing I burst into tears. I would have to have a really good therapist, someone I respect, and I would know that they can help me. If I am there, like a spectacle for the therapist, I don't share the darkness.

"You can't handle the truth".

[SadMinnie in reply to Raggedy-Ann]

I'm sorry you feel like this 💜 I think you are right. I've been seeing here for almost two years but always difficulty to trust and open myself completely. But before her I had another therapist that I trusted more and one day he just said he couldn't treat me anymore that there was nothing he could do for me because it would be very hard for someone like me to have any kind of progress. After that I think it's hard to build a relationship of trust with therapists since the connection is very fragile.

[Raggedy-Ann]

Good morning Minnie, First don't give up. There will be times when you are still and that's ok. When motivation comes make the most of it. Get rid of things that spark bad memories, or clean something, change your bedding do something that will raise your spirits and give you a sense of accomplishment. It works to have something clean like your bathroom, it will also give you a sense of relief when it's done and you don't have to look at the mess. Learn how to manage your depression and try to be your own best friend rather than your biggest bully. Little things like putting on some face cream, or a dab of a favorite scent.

[SadMinnie in reply to Raggedy-Ann]

Thank you! I will really try that 💜

[Nothingnoted in reply to SadMinnie]

Warm hugs, Minnie🤗🤗

[Dusty1234]

You are here, so you are strong. You reached out. I would say you want to get better, and that's a big part of battle. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't know the answer. I will say, I never expected to even still be here now. We are here. You are not alone.

[SadMinnie in reply to Dusty1234]

Thank you! I have to say that I didn't expect going this far either but I'm happy that you are here too. Thank you 💜

[Nothingnoted]

Here for you