narcissistic and controlling

[Kbeck1991]

so my ex messaged me and told me that what I’m doing on here isn’t helping me in anyway, apparently this is all a joke and unprofessional help. Why the hell does it matter to him, how is this not help?! Talking to other people who know exactly how I feel and what I’m going through? No one else understands and I don’t have anyone else to talk to.. he is the one who wanted me to get help, and I’m finally trying to Better myself for him but it’s never good enough? How is him telling me this helping in anyway?! Idk what to do, every time I get one little glimpse of hope someone has To take it say.

[Hidden]

People who try to shame others for getting help, are usually trying to drag them down into their own level of insecurity. Misery loves company, and that's an understatement.

Always trust your own judgement; regardless of what some people may think, there's nobody in this world that knows you better than you

[Thankfulforhelp22]

you do you. If it helps to be part of this community and you like it that is enough...

I wish you the best.

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Why is he trying to make you feel bad for seeking out people to talk to??? What’s up with him? I wouldn’t want to be around someone like that.

[Nothing_but_books]

Hey Kbeck. The guy's being a jerk and trying to control you. If it helped to rant here, do it. He's looking out for him. You look out for you.

There are a lot of warm, decent folk here who don't go at you when you "get one little glimpse of hope". I don't know why he'd like to take that from you, but you don't have to help him do it.

Get yourself a nice cuppa tea and stretch out. Find something cozy to do. Hope you're feeling better soon.