I cut out a narcissist

[animefan94]

She was an ex friend from social media. Or more like an acquaintance. She was a narcissist, the full definition of the word. She saw herself as “the queen” and never making any mistakes. She loved making others feel bad for who they are, all while she preached tolerance at the same time. She gaslighted me into thinking I was the toxic one. Which really cut my self esteem down. She may have gone through trauma herself. But that’s not an excuse for bullying. I feel so powerful cutting her out of my life. I’m renewing my relationship boundaries. I will not allow anyone to make me feel like this again.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

Yeah I’m leaning towards getting rid of a friend I used to know. It’s so sad she chose to end the friendship over a guy. She’s not even seeing the guy.

What happened was they dated for 3 months. Guy ends with her with the ye olde saying “it’s not you, it’s me. Maybe we could just be friends.” She was keeping as a friend in hopes they could get back together, but he ended up distancing himself from her. After 1 month, he started chatting with her. She thinks he’s trying to rekindle the relationship. But I think guy thought there needed a time off between them to get over the break up. I don’t think he knows she still wants a relationship.

Anyways over the lockdown they had been talking and she feels there’s something there. I was chatting with a mutual friend of ours and found out during lockdown, this guy went over to our friends place. So when I was talking with her, I mentioned it. Cause I thought since she made it seem they are on good terms, so I thought they hung out. Turns out he didn’t pay her a visit, nor did she know he broke quarantine to visit with our friend. She been cyber stalking him on IG and she thought he was stuck at his parents place. Well she blew up at me and told me “I’ve done enough and to leave her alone”. That was back in September of last year. I’ve messaged her and she ignores my messages, even when I found out her brother had cancer and sent my well wishes and support cause I know what that’s like. Nothing back.

I guess I lost a friend.

[twinks in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Cl3v3rgirlThat girl sounds like a person ur better off without in ur life.

A friend of mine yrs ago was going out with a womaniser......I didnt tell her thought she'd find out soon enough (which she did) but not from me

I hadn't seen him myself but knew from reliable people that knew him

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to twinks]

Yeah some we come across in life are just for that moment in time and we move on. I guess she is one of those people. Knew her and was friends for about 7yrs.

She is like crazy stuck on this guy. Guy has moved on like seriously moved on. Another mutual friend told me that they went to his place for his birthday party. He was in his bedroom having loud obnoxious sex with somebody else. And that our friend and her were in living room listening to this. Everyone of our friends have told her to let this guy go. But idk she just can’t. Our friends are starting to kind of dodge her because of it. Cause she makes things about her. Like at our mutual friend’s birthday party. Everyone was having a good time. She is stuck to the corner with this pissy look on her face. Like “everyone is having fun but me” and friends tried to coax her to dance and play games. Nope. Just wanted to sit there and be sad. Then complain to me that our mutual friend was annoying at the party 🙄

[twinks]

Animefan94

Good for u, uve done the right thing

[Hb2003]

I have gone through the same thing here ❤️I am happy about it although I do get sad sometimes about it

[Rafiki11]

I’m glad you’re taking control of who has access to you!

[TruckersWife4life]

I know what you mean animefan94, I had to do the same, I just could not tolerate it any longer. I have maybe a handful of friends and the rest are acquaintances. After I did that I started to feel more confident because of no toxic friends. To be honest I feel I don't have to have friends that are like that and I except that. You did the right thing.

[Midori]

Good. You be the best you possibly can, you don't need anyone to hold you back.

Cheers, Midori