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Hey guys I’m so confused!

My boyfriend I know for sure he has anger problems.. but is he narcissist? He has a lot of common behaviors...

like let me tell you this Saturday morning I farted and he got so upset and start abusing me and telling me i need to leave his house (which I did)

Everyone here knows I have anxiety and depression, however I took responsibility and I’m healing I’m sober I don’t smoke I’m healthy and he keeps telling me I have a bipolar (which is another behavior for narcissist)

Omg please help

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Joeyman profile image
Joeyman

Hello friend, I am sorry to know that you are suffering. Anger need not necessarily mean narcissism. Anger has many causes. The incident that you mentioned above making him angry could be because he is in some mental pain. May be some time later, you could talk to him about what made him lose his temper and both of you could figure things out. By the way hats off to you for making healthy life style changes. Here's me hoping that the two of you have a wonderful future. DON'T WORRY. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

in reply to Joeyman

Thank you, however this is just not it is so much more, he will destroyed me and still say He’s the victim and I have to apologize I have to ask for permission if I can see my son ☹️🥺 I am a heartless B for him and ungrateful everything he does for me when he get upset will throw it at my face and say I am ungrateful... but I do say thank you so many times! Honestly I do care for him and respect him but no longer want the abuse for 4 years I believe it was me however I work on my self to find out who I’m truly are, and I am amazing person who can do so much in life! 💔

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Joeyman in reply to

From what you are saying, I get the impression that you are in an unhealthy relationship. Both partners have a role to play in maintaining a relationship. I get the feeling that you are doing your best but your partner is not...

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Fruitsofspirit

Honey u really need to remove urself from this type of relationship. I was in a relationship very abused in all ways. I finally left after 7 years of it. Got help to love me and my kids. I did great for years of feeling good and past the abuse's 30 some years later somebody beat my granddaughter up and year's of abuse's went through my head, I became PTSD badely. I haven't been able to shake it since that was 2011. It don't get better it gets worst mostly with us his narcissist. U will be in my heart and prayers, thoughts. U aren't made to be abused. Love you. PM me anytime

in reply to Fruitsofspirit

Thanks so much, I did pray and say I need to find out what do I need for my child and my self... God immediately respond We don’t belong there is sad, I wish I can help him but he will never listen 💔

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Fruitsofspirit in reply to

Thank God. I'm so thankful. The Lord is with you and his blessings for you and your family.

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DodgeDhanda

Why are you still with him ?

Not sugar coating it .

You know his berating of you is harming you mentally , so why are you letting it happen? You need to protect urself & if it means taking a small time out for a few days to work on urself then so be it. All to often we allow others to release their anger upon us mentally & think its OK...... IT ISN'T OK.

IF WE DON'T GIVE A HECK ABOUT OURSELVES THEN WHY SHOULD OTHERS BOTHER??

Also I hope you stunk his house out & left a mushroom cloud of fart gas

in reply to DodgeDhanda

Omg hahaha not even a good sugar daddy making 200k and I have to give something for bills🤦 Sheesh I’m so mentally tired again because of this I left on Saturday

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DodgeDhanda in reply to

Big step BUT a step u had to take to help urself. I feel he treated you like a lodger too wanting money for bills. No offence but how would he react if you asked him to pay for intimacy??

Again I just used it to give a different point of view. Now I suppose you need to give urself some you time.

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hypercat54 in reply to

D-Dhanda is absolutely correct. This guy sound horrible and I would get out of this relationship as soon as possible. How do you respect and care for someone who treats you like this? Would you care for someone you love like this? No of course you wouldn't, then why put up with this from this guy.

He doesn't love you - he just wants someone to bully. Oh and when you leave 'His' house for the last time secrete a fish head somewhere he won't find it. He will know what stinky is then!

in reply to hypercat54

I know, how ridiculous this is, narcissist??? Mmmmm we broke up 2019 December and 3 weeks later he’s dating and he say NEVER 🤦🤦🤦 He blames me he’s getting chunky because I cook Mexican grease food hahhha

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DodgeDhanda in reply to

Lol, you didn't tie him down & force him to eat the food & guess what it's not your fault he didn't go to the gym to work it off. Maybe he be better off eating hamster food instead

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hypercat54 in reply to DodgeDhanda

You are brilliant and I can't stop laughing at what you said Chuckling away like a loonie :D

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Marshall64

Wow, your boyfriend is the classic narcissist. I was on a relationship with one too. Best to stay away and relationships with one are never healthy.

in reply to Marshall64

Right..? I am so lucky to have all tou guys

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hypercat54 in reply to

And look at this link

lifehack.org/796353/narciss...

in reply to hypercat54

Some behavior are him and this is what’s like confused is he a narcissist? Omg I picked up some clothes for my son at his house and he put his sad face 🤦 omg I was likeeeee no bro I’m not playing this game no more

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Marshall64 in reply to

That is the thing; I wasn't tough at first. Long story that could be on Dr. Phil, the lying caught up with her. I never have been with someone like that so I was nieve and manipulated. I have come across others since but avoid them when I can.

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