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What are you doing for self care?

I am thinking we can collect a bunch of ideas on here to potentially try.

I am needing self care but having trouble thinking of something that sounds good to me right now…

- Light candles

- meditate

- eat extra healthy

- take magnesium

- calming tea

- facial

- foot soak

- nail polish

- get a massage

-nature walk

- read

-music

- cuddle a pet

-positive self talk

- practice kindness and love for self and others ❤️

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Lve2dance

all sound good 😎

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Starrlight in reply to Lve2dance

thanks! Add on or try some if you want

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Starrlight in reply to Lve2dance

I’m def doing nails and candles

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Blueruth

It is 🍎 season so splurge on something other than honey crisps.

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Starrlight in reply to Blueruth

Yaaay!

I like to do my nails sometimes. And take the time to soak in a nice bubble bath. Sometimes when I’m in the shower I imagine I’m standing underneath a waterfall. I just zone out and take a break from reality!!!

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Starrlight in reply to

I love those especially imagining a waterfall. I can’t wait for my next shower ha!

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RupertBrown

Was feeling a lot of anxiety today so I put on my Art playlist (think ambient electronica) and puttered around with my rocks and crystals. I moved and re-did my display. It was super relaxing!

Approx 80% of my collection
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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

My kids and I collect minerals/rocks/crystals too! I’ll take a pic of some of ours right now…

Kids’ rocks
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RupertBrown in reply to Starrlight

Nice!

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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

here’s some more…

Art and rocks
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RupertBrown in reply to Starrlight

Wow, some of these are so colorful! Do you know what the two on the left are? They look so cool.

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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

oh actually those colorful ones are stones we melted crayon onto.

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RupertBrown in reply to Starrlight

Lol, i used to paint rocks. Never thought of melting crayons on them. Might have to give that a try!

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primrose81 in reply to Starrlight

Love it!

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Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight

Love these

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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

here’s a bug one!

Bug stone
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RupertBrown in reply to Starrlight

Oh wow! We have some carved stones, mostly fruit and animals. Never saw one quite like this before!

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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

it was a gift from a friend …I wonder where he got it, it is unusual.

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RupertBrown in reply to Starrlight

I love it. Creepy, crawly and really cool! Thanks for sharing your pics. I've been a rock hound literally as long as I can remember!

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Starrlight in reply to RupertBrown

Same here! How cool!

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Isinatra in reply to Starrlight

It looks like an Egyptian scarab. Usually the medium used is jade. Nice piece!

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Starrlight in reply to Isinatra

Very cool thanks Isinatra

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Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight

Neat!

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bonkers65 in reply to RupertBrown

I also collect rocks. As well as Native American arrowheads.

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RupertBrown in reply to bonkers65

Nice! I had no idea there were so many of us.

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Adamj

shaved/trimmed my face last night which was nice pushed through the anxiety when doing it. Also went for a walk today rode stationary bike and ate food.

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Starrlight in reply to Adamj

So awesome, Adam!

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Dolphin14 in reply to Adamj

Two thumbs up Adam 👍👍

🐬

facemask, hairmask and a shower, cuddling up in a blanket alone and watching something, gaming or listening to music, prepare an outfit

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Starrlight in reply to Against_the_current

Nice Against_the_current!!!

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ashleybakerr01

I take long warm showers at night to help calm and ease my mind. takes time away from every thing around and relax. i like to just stand under the water and let the warmth hit me. i also do box breathing when i feel anxiety coming on or having an attack, although it's hard at times. how I know its coming on is i start to get burning feeling in my skin, then i start box breathing and it seems to help me

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Starrlight in reply to ashleybakerr01

nice I’ll have to look up box breathing

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primrose81 in reply to ashleybakerr01

Thanks Ashley, I like box breathing as well, although I do a lot of 5-7-8 as it tends to slow my breathing down better, also I think I read somewhere that the exhale should be longer than the inhale? Oh and when I do the 5-7-8 one I hold my breath for 4seconds before proceeding to the next one and also at the very end…

Switching my phone off for a couple of hours as I am old school and feel if a matter is important they will call back later on as i cant always be glued to a phone 24/7 and help out all the time!

Off for a flu jab this afternoon at 3.20pm.

Saying no to things I dont want to do!

Taking time to do things I enjoy.

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HopelessRN

hi there...my main go to's are a warm bath, pedicure, facial, and massage and looking in the mirror and saying positive affirmations

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primrose81 in reply to HopelessRN

Gosh, that’s a good one, looking at the mirror and saying positive affirmations I mean. Only problem is I don’t like looking in the mirror lol but will give it a go!

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Dolphin14

⭐️

I love your list. As you know there are so many things we like to do that are similar

Meditation, foot soak, facial, cuddle a pet ( even though he's spikey and 💩 on me )

Music, exercise, sitting in silence. Listening to nature with a cup of coffee.... birds, rain, wind, taking time to listen to the sound of my wind chimes.

My whole life I " had no time" that can do so much damage.

Great post my friend

❤️🐬

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Starrlight in reply to Dolphin14

🐬!!! 😆 at your spikey friend doing business on ya! 🦔 Silly guy! I think I’ll do a combo today of foot lotion meditation and facial at the same time. Hope you are enjoying your day ❤️ ⭐️

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Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight

Hope your spa day went well

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Isinatra

I like to keep my nails nice and I discovered gel nail polish. Girls! You gotta try it. Guys,too…whoever…. And I’m getting tired of looking at the grey hairs that frame my face when I pull it back. It’s too hard to hide and I’m thinking of tinting it. I’ve got new glasses so the rest of me needs to match. New glasses, new me.

…..
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Starrlight in reply to Isinatra

I have gray hairs too I haven’t done anything about them. I think I’ll just let them be for now. Nice on the glasses!

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Isinatra in reply to Starrlight

Grey hairs can be a badge of courage. But for me, it’s just kind of grey hair. I’m glad you think the glasses aren’t too much. 😁

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Dolphin14 in reply to Isinatra

Who can see the gray with those fab glasses on? Maybe just don't pull your hair back???

❤️🐬

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Isinatra in reply to Dolphin14

lol Ok…I guess it’s not too late to start a new fashion trend…..when it gets below 60. 🏄‍♀️ Surf’s up! Ian aka Godzilla is on its way.

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Dolphin14 in reply to Isinatra

Hair down, glasses on and hit the beach

❤️🐬

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Isinatra in reply to Dolphin14

Working on it…..😁

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Dolphin14 in reply to Isinatra

High surfs coming plenty of surfboards ready I bet

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Isinatra in reply to Dolphin14

The surfers are gathering in numbers on the beach and waiting for heads up that no swimmers are allowed in the water. That’s when they’ll swarm in and sit on their boards anticipating the Big One to come along. Big One meaning a wave that will crest more than two feet. Five feet is a challenge. Oh, yeah…our surfers are big kahunas…..🏄‍♂️😉

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Isinatra

I miss being able to use nail polish. ☹️

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Isinatra in reply to Nothing_but_books

I miss having a pet to love.

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Isinatra

Yes. I wouldn't trade my girl for all the nail polish there is.

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Isinatra in reply to Nothing_but_books

🥰

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Milly6q

here.my plan for today for self care was quiting my job, ringing the doctors, mositurising my face (as i have neglected myself) go for a walk , rest , cook some food as i love cooking and find it therapeutic ...snuggle my husband later ...yeah maybe throw in my favorite songs and eat properly

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Dolphin14 in reply to Milly6q

Can't tell you how many times I want to quit the job.

🐬

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Milly6q in reply to Dolphin14

theres always another job there isnt another you

in reply to Milly6q

I got fired from my job a couple of weeks ago and at present i am working my 4 weeks notice and my last day will be 14 October and I will leave there with my head held high!

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Milly6q in reply to

absolutely u go catgirl

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Starrlight in reply to Milly6q

So awesome, Milly6q!!!!!!!!!!! Happy for you hope you enjoy the changes you are making!

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Sawdust23

pick a project you can get excited about. I love woodworking and find a nice simple project is a good way to feel better and more positive about life!

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Starrlight in reply to Sawdust23

Awesome!!! I’m going to paint my bathroom

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Frankie24

I like to take walks, especially on the beach, exercise, cook for myself and my son. Spend time with pet’s. Volunteer at local animal shelter , take an online writing course, spend time with my 80 year old mom. Watch professional football. Go to church, praying. Working part-time due to my dialysis schedule. Watch the animals in nature, care for many indoor plants. Light my favorite scented candles evergreen and pine ❤️

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Starrlight in reply to Frankie24

awesome list Frankie! So inspiring

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primrose81

This is a wonderful post Starrlight and I love all the different replies. I love candles as well but my husband claims he is allergic to them and also has never liked me wearing perfume either….I have a lovely selection of candles on the hearth and the only time they get lit is when someone close dies, I made that last over a whole week when the Queen died, it’s so touching the way so many people felt close to Her Majesty - she was great at uniting people and bringing them together - look at what she did for N.Ireland. I think I would add photos to my list but only when I am in the right mood as they can sometimes make me feel sad. And reading over and over again beautiful hand-written letters (I never throw them out, they are so special and I hear the person speaking clearly when I read their letters). I have some going back to the Sixties and yes I should have a clearout but can’t bring myself to doing it…

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Starrlight in reply to primrose81

Awww I love the handwritten letters to remind us we are loved 🥰

in reply to Starrlight

I still appreciate when someone takes the time to mail me a card or letter. Sending emails or getting notifications on Facebook just is NOT the same!!!! The post office will appreciate this too. Computer technology just makes people lazy in some ways.

Today I have enjoyed a day out in the city centre with my sister in law to take my mind off getting evicted and fired from my job a couple of weeks ago.

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Starrlight in reply to

((((((((((((((((Catgirl))))))))))))) 🥰

in reply to Starrlight

Those are things I cant change but what I can do is have a good attitude towards them as theres no point getting upset over things that are beyond your control but today nice things have happened though like having a nice lunch out which I enjoyed.

On my last day at the job in a few weeks time whats definite is i will leave the place with my head held high!

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primrose81 in reply to

Good for you Catgirl, you’ve definitely got the right attitude. Got me thinking what Gerrerd said recently - something about every exit leading to a new entrance somewhere and I’m sure it’s true, you will find something else and it will be better.

in reply to primrose81

I find that when one door slams shut others open!

Hows your dog getting on?

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I am afraid we lost him a year and a half ago - still miss him dreadfully but he was just irreplaceable…but our son is thinking of getting a dog soon so hoping we can dog-share, granny-sit etc!

in reply to primrose81

Im sorry to hear that. I didnt know you had lost him.

Its hard to take is losing a pet.

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Starrlight in reply to primrose81

So sorry 😞

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Frankie24 in reply to primrose81

Sorry for the loss of your fur baby. It is so heartbreaking 🐶

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Starrlight in reply to

You inspire me! I will try to have the same attitude!!! ❤️

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designguy

Eat ice cream.

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Starrlight in reply to designguy

awe.some.

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QuiltLady

I also like to take short naps and if I'm up to it, do a little sewing or crafting. I also like to kiss my grandbabies.

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Starrlight in reply to QuiltLady

Great stuff there QuiltLady

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Mrspjsmom

Laugh

Bubble baths

Facials

Manicures and pedicures

Naps

Music

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Starrlight in reply to Mrspjsmom

I’m doing a facial right now. Great list

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Starrlight

😍😍😍 glad you like!

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c-mac

ive been sleeping 11 or 12 hours a night, which is bad for me, so my ADHD coach helped me come up with a reason to get up. At 6 im gonna read and have breakfast, at 7 im gonna do yoga, and at 8 im gonna walk my wife and daughter to the train or for days when I have to go in get ready for work myself.

I give it one day.

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Starrlight in reply to c-mac

Best to you, c-mac. You think it will last one day? Do you think something like it will work for you if it was a little different in ways?

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c-mac in reply to Starrlight

I didn't even do it one day. I'm still used to getting up much later -- it might be the depakote just makes me really groggy for 9 or 10 hours. But, I did get up around 7:40 and I got in a shave, which is a level of self-care I'm not used to. So it's a start.

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Starrlight in reply to c-mac

yes, good for you! Every bit counts.

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Frankie24

Went to the Eastern State Exposition a huge fair with my son yesterday. It was awesome. Helps me to get through another dialysis day today !!

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Starrlight in reply to Frankie24

Wow cool. Best to you on your dialysis. Why are you having dialysis if you feel like sharing?

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Nothingnoted

Watch asian romance dramas on neflix and utube

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