I recently had a conversation with a few friends about what holds us back when we are trying to prioritize self-care in our lives and it really got me thinking….
What holds you back from taking better care of yourself?
I would love to hear.
I recently had a conversation with a few friends about what holds us back when we are trying to prioritize self-care in our lives and it really got me thinking….
What holds you back from taking better care of yourself?
I would love to hear.
I would say not having enough time, I know everyone says you need to make time but it's easier said than done.
I know what you mean. I feel like I create time by outsourcing things or getting really creative- like getting groceries picked up or delivered so I spend less time doing food shopping and meal prep.
Outsourcing is a good idea. Yeah I'm the same in usually get my groceries delivered.
I am always up for anything that makes things easier. Double bonus if it also creates space or time for me.
My problem is that I don’t think I deserve care. My default mode is to think I’m not good enough. I have to work hard thinking I’m a worthy human being. Once I get that through my head, it’s easier to practice gentle self care.
Its time and having to do things for other people
In the past it was feeling like I didn't deserve to take care of or stand up for myself which I know now was total bullshit that I learned from my parents that was due to their own lack of self esteem and inability to validate their self worth.
Pre programmed from childhood I learned I wasn't worth taking care of. Doing for me was looked at as selfish. I carried this message through out my life. I was supposed to care for others, not me.
The tables have turned with years of therapy, I can now see clearly what the road block is.
I can now use the word No. I can say things like that doesn't work for me right now.
Gotta tell you a bit of pampering goes a long way to boost the spirit.
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I love that phrase “that doesn’t work for me right now”. I tend to say “not right now”, but I feel like that leaves it too open for someone to circle back and take my time.
It is interesting to see how much better I feel and think when I do pamper myself. It doesn’t even need to be anything fancy. I can just take some time and space to read and it recharges my batteries.