Panic snowballed

[Against_the_current]

My sister messaged me she had troubles at school. I got worried. I paniced. I wanted to call mom but i realized she might have drinked and went to sleep so i better not wake her up. So i called granma to ask what is going on and how should i act. Turned out she was asleep earlier because yesterday she felt unwell at her stomache and didn't sleep good. I now worry If i messed her health or even worse...

But i'm overreacting right? My sister won't end up in a mental aysulum because a teacher corrected her good english or end up as a misfit because the teacher scolded her behaviour when she was actually doing nothing wrong. And Grandma won't get sick because i woke her

Im getting ocd thinking that If i do sertain things they will get worse and it will be my fault

[compasnet]

I don't really know you,or much about you, A_t_c, but yes it sounds to me anyhow, like maybe you're overthinking, overly worrying, but at the same time just being a perfectly loving, compassionate, caring, sensitive, and loving sister, daughter, and granddaughter. I hope your family understands that and how must you love them🙏

[Against_the_current in reply to compasnet]

Thank you

[Hidden]

Sometimes it’s important to stay calm and try not to assume the worst.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Thanks

[compasnet in reply to Against_the_current]

Of course, you're welcome 🙏

[SoporRose]

If all that's happened is a correction of your sister's grammar and a scolding for a small behaviour issue, then I don't think you need to worry. Those sound like very normal school events. Your sister is an adolescent and is bound to be a little dramatic about everyday occurrences.

It was thoughtful of you to check with your grandmother. I imagine your grandmother knows how to ignore or turn off her phone if she doesn't want to be disturbed. None of what goes on with your family when you're not around is your fault. Breathe easy, AtC.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Thank you so much

[Sam1109]

It is very easy to let worries snowball. I've done this to some extent. It seems every few months I have to snap out of it. You're definitely way over reacting. Make some notes in a journal about it so you can remind yourself that you need to stay alert on your worries and detect when you're spiraling down a hole.

Something we need to keep in mind is that nothing is permanent. Everything is in constant change. We like our days to all go predictably. But there is no constant in nature. Good things happen, bad things happen. The only challenge you need to win is keeping calm through whatever happens and judge situations justly. To do that it helps to have reference points. Like what did really happen to your sister? Doesn't that happen to millions of kids everyday? If you say it's nothing and don't freak out would it do some kind of incredible damage to anyone? Waking someone up from sleep wouldn't do any harm unless the person is very seriously ill, in which case they would probably already be at the hospital anyway.

[Against_the_current in reply to Sam1109]

Thanks for the clarity