I’ve never used an online chat before and I’m extremely nervous and confused. I have no idea how to do this or what I’m doing. Please help!
Please help me get started! - Anxiety and Depre...
Please help me get started!
48 Replies
•
Welcome to the group! There are a lot of good people to talk to here. I will be online all of this evening if you want to talk.
• in reply toStippler
Thank you so much for replying. I really appreciate it. I don’t know how to use this. I joined with my email address and now I have to keep checking my email (?). Is there an app I need to download?? I’m so so confused. It’s stressing me out. Can you help me understand how this works please? I don’t even know how to change the profile picture to an emoji of some sort! I have never used an online chat and I have a terrible time understanding things 😢
Stippler• in reply to
You don't have to check your email for messages. If you just go directly here, you will see on the top a bell icon that says "Alerts." If you have a message, it will have a yellow circle that has the number of messages or responses you have. If you click there, it will take you right to your new messages and replies to your posts. Feel free to ask anything. I will try to help if I can. 
I am so very sorry, I still don’t understand. What do you mean by “if I go here?” Where is “here??”
Stippler• in reply to
The same place where you just sent your reply from. If you come directly to the Health Unlocked web site (instead of your email), that is where the Alerts icon is. It is the same place where you sent your reply from.
• in reply toStippler
So I have to do a search for healthunlocked.com every time?? Again, I’m so sorry, and thank you so much for replying.
Stippler• in reply to
No need to apologize - the only dumb questions are the ones not asked. Do you know how to bookmark a web site? Or add it to your favorites? If you could do that, it will be easier to get here in the future. I might be able to help you if you don't know how.
• in reply toStippler
I used to know how but I don’t anymore. Can you help me?
Stippler• in reply to
I will try. It looks as though you have changed your profile picture. Are you in Microsoft Edge?
• in reply toStippler
I have an iPhone. It uses Safari, I think.
Stippler• in reply to
I have never used an iphone, so I can't help you with that. Do you have any family or friends (or even a therapist) who could show you how to bookmark a web site? If you could do that, I could help show you around if you still need me to.
• in reply toStippler
Yes, please, can you help me with the website, etc? I just sent you a bunch of questions too, I’m sorry.
• in reply toStippler
I figured out how to bookmark it and added it to favorites. So I just go there every time I want to talk? How do I stop getting the messages in my email then? Is there a way to see who’s online, or do you just message a random person each time like I did with you? I’m sorry for all the questions. I’m extremely anxious and nervous and I’m dealing with insomnia which is killing me. I’ll be up till 4am. 😓.
Stippler• in reply to
Yes. If you go there, you can post a message. It will be visible to everybody else, so you will probably get responses from numerous other people here. You can go into your Health Unlocked settings and change which emails you get from them. I did it but don't remember exactly how. If you can't figure it out, I can try to find how to do it and maybe give you some clues.
• in reply toStippler
I need all the clues and help I can get. I’m way beyond confused. This doesn’t make sense to me at all. And the bookmark isn’t working. It says (4) every time I go to it. It’s not changing at all. So I’m still having to go to my email and go through a confusing process to see your reply. Will you be up for awhile? I need to eat quick and I need help calming down 😩
Stippler• in reply to
Yes, I will be up for a little while.
jackiesj• in reply to
just got iphone myself..a little difficult to understand...welcome.jj
Innovative• in reply to
when you get to the page where this website is, you can bookmark it. Are you opening this from your phone, or from a computer? If it is from a computer, you could click the star near the top right side of the screen, and that will allow you to add a ‘bookmark’ on the site. You can name it what you want, and that ‘bookmark’ will be visually there at the top of the screen and you can click it anytime you want to come to the website.
I hope that makes sense. Let me know if it doesn’t, and I’ll see what I can do to help you. ❤️
Thank you. I really need help navigating this. It’s driving me crazy that I have to go to my email and get in that way. It’s just too confusing. I have absolutely no clue what I’m doing or how to fix that, and the bookmark thing. I’m so sorry I’m a wreck. I’m having a horrible time understanding. Do you have any idea why the bookmark is doing that or how to fix it?? I don’t know what I need to do.
Stippler• in reply to
I have no idea why your bookmark is doing that. I think your best bet would be to get a friend who knows more about an iphone to set that up for you.
• in reply toStippler
I can ask someone tomorrow about that. Thank you anyway for trying. I’m so sleep deprived, I don’t know if this was a good idea or not. I have a lot of issues. I live alone and can’t bare it. I have severe depression, super severe anxiety, and because of a recent medication that completely wrecked me with side effects, I now have insomnia. I’m looking for help any way I can possibly get it. I’m sorry if I’ve bothered you tonight. I’m trying to relax and it’s impossible.
Stippler• in reply to
No need to apologize. When you get more accustomed to this forum, you will find that you are never alone. There are lots of good people here, joining this group is one of the best things I have done in a while!
Dolphin14• in reply to
You are here for all the right reasons. Stippler you can see the support
Please don't be be frightened. We will help you
🐬
• in reply toDolphin14
I’m very frightened. This format truly makes no sense to me at all. And the bookmark issue is making it that much worse. I cannot deal with the insomnia I’m going through. I was going to take a bath tonight but can’t seem to do it yet. I truly don’t know what to do.
Dolphin14• in reply to
What about sitting with some music on? Would that help. A bath sounds good but it's ok if you don't have the energy. The beauty of the site is that we are all in different time zones so someone is always awake.
Did you look at the moon tonight? If it's night where you are? It's beautiful. I will attach a picture.
Find peace in the beauty of the night
Stippler• in reply to
Go easy on yourself. There is no need to figure it all out tonight. Easy does it. 🤗
Welcome to our community. Now that you have HU book marked it will come right up on your I phone. If not type in Health Unlocked and it will pop up.
If you go to your account under settings you can shut off the email notifications. I have mine shut off
At the top of this screen you will see a button that says Chat. That is for private messages people may send you. Alert button is if someone likes or responds to you post.
If you want to private message someone go into My hub, go to our group A&D read down a bit it will say members go there. Search area you write in the persons name ( ex Dolphin14) then you can write a private message. If you haven't figured that one out yet try and send me a message if you want.
This is a great place with many good people.
🐬
• in reply toDolphin14
Thank you for your message. I don’t know if this was a good idea or not. I have severe depression, severe anxiety, and insomnia and I just cannot understand how this works. I’m completely tense, nothing is working, and this online thing is just so confusing to me. My bookmark is not working right. Every time I go to favorites/bookmark, it shows (4) beside it. It never changes. So I’m still having to go to my emails to get in. It’s just too annoying. I don’t understand this at all. I really do appreciate all the information you gave me, I just can’t comprehend anything right now. It’s too confusing. I don’t have a clue about the bookmark thing.
Dolphin14• in reply to
Go slow. You have already learned how to post that's good. I knew nothing when I came here. People walked me through different things. So this is a learning curve. Deep breaths and you will get it
I'm on and I phone with Safari also. When I go to my search bar, because I'm on here frequently, a little HU icon has popped up. It's not book marked but my phone recognizes it I guess. I'm thinking this will eventually happen to you over time.
My suggestion is you take a break. Use the email notification until you figure it all out. You don't have to learn it all in one night. You will get
emmi331• in reply to
I get an e-mail from Health Unlocked every day, and I just click on it, and it brings me right to the website. No problem - I don't use any kind of app to get here.
Hi there, please don’t be terrified! We are all nice people on here and hopefully you will make a network of friends to help support you! Just open up and write down how you’re feeling and what you want to talk about or need support or advice with. There’s usually someone on this lovely group that’s about at that time to respond to you my darling. I hope you’re feeling a bit better about things today? Sending you big hugs and love 😍❤️😘xx
a a t, you're doing perfectly! I felt te same way when I first started to us HU. I have a feeling that tryth be told, probably pretty much moat of us here frlt some apprehension zt first. Keep up the great work! Feel free to reach out 🙏
Just be yourself. Explain things as best as you can and you'll get many comments. People here are more than happy and willing to help each other out. Nothing you say will be repeated outside this forum and you don't ever have to feel alone or embarrassed. If you are having a hard time, for example because you did "A," I can guarantee you'll find hundreds of other people here who did the same or worse. Your feelings are acknowledged and allowed. No one is going to say, stop feeling like that or it's silly,, etc. We all have our issues and need each other's support. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. No one is going to say what you feel is bad, stupid, or has no merit. We support each other, and understand how it feels. Today I'm offering my advice and support but who knows, next week I could be the one on the "couch." Once you start sharing you will feel much better. Just make sure you do acknowledge the people who have replied and are trying to help you. Of course every place has the good, the bad, and who the "H" knows? I'm sure you can help someone too. The only thing that will get people to stop is if you post about your fears, etc and kind folks try to help, please do say thanks even if their advice isn't what you need. "Givers" get help, "takers" get lost....I can't wait to see how much you'll grow here.
Hi. I’m alone and terrified too. It’s comforting to at least know that I’m not the only one feeling this way. This is the first time I’ve ever posted here. It’s 4:30 AM and my insomnia is in full swing. nothing I’ve ever tried gives me any real relief as the side effects make me physically uncomfortable. I’m also completely lonely and broke. Trying to stay positive but it’s challenging.
Hello there and welcom!! 🤗 The first thing to do is just breathe. I’m fairly knew here…about 3 weeks or so. I was VERY nervous and terrified when I did my first post. It took me weeks to add up the courage to begin!! I’m so glad that I did as this is a great way to meet others who suffer just like I do. You are not alone. I suffer from VERY severe daily panic attacks, overall anxiety, depression and PTSD. I also have MANY physical medical problems like a lot of other people I’ve met here. I’m SO happy that I joined!! Since the website forum is available worldwide…no matter what time it is for you…if you’re having trouble sleeping…you can post like you just did and someone will answer you…usually more than 1 person. I suffer from insomnia also so I know how frustrating it can be. You’ve already done the hardest part…you took the first step and posted!! You should be very proud of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back…literally!! It may seem silly 🙃 but you’ve earned it. When I first joined….another member told me about 2 apps that I have downloaded and they are a tremendous help in addition to Health Unlocked. Do you know how to download apps??? The 1st one is called DARE. I use this mostly when I’m having a massive panic attack and hyperventilating. After you install the app…there is an SOS 🆘 button you click and this man’s voice is calming and will “walk you through it “ There are other things on the DARE app as well but I use the SOS 🆘 button the most. The other app that helps me is called INSIGHT TIMER. This one I use more for mediation…which I’ve always had a problem doing because my mind wanders. That’s ok….slowly focus back to where you were. I’m still in the learning phases of meditation myself. Just know that you are not alone!! You can meet some really great people here. Another thing that I find helpful besides chatting here and the 2 apps mentioned is YouTube. YouTube has SO many videos…you will find a plethora of information. Whether it’s to simply calm yourself or if you’re having difficulty sleeping…there are videos that play gentle, relaxing music 🎵 and/or help with insomnia. I learned the hard way to choose videos that are commercial or advertising free. The last thing one wants is to start to relax and then loud, blasting music or a commercial comes on. There are SO many…you have a choice of dozens and dozens. I hope that I have helped you in some ways. I really DO understand how scared you are feeling as that’s how I was at first. You remind me of myself. You WILL get the hang of it in no time. And if you stumble…just post 24/7. Someone should be awake and reply to “catch you”. If I see you leave a post and I’m available…I will reply. Welcome again to Health Unlocked. I am really happy that you’re here!! 🌺😊💋🌈💜
you indirectly helped me 😊.. I was not aware off app options as well. I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend. My thoughts go out to to all the beautiful people in the UK, 💋 💕
.. My voice dictate to type was for some reason duplicating words. I did not realize until I posted 🤣
Good morning Live2Dance!! Awww 🥰 Thank you so very much!! I’m really glad that I helped you!! I joined this community thinking 🤔 that I will never have anything to offer anyone…that I was such a hot mess that I needed everyone else to help ME!! I’m really glad that after 3 weeks of procrastinating…I finally joined!! It’s been truly wonderful. Something else to “add to my tool box” so to speak!! Hope you have a wonderful day…or at least not truly awful 😞!!
lol thanks.. It is other than my monthly cycle is kicking my everything 😂.. It sucks tho because I had women's health issues so I had surgery.. I can't have kids which I'm ok with, but getting my cycle still is a bad cosmic joke.. I was told in my early 40s when I had the surgery not good to have total surgery to remove everything.
you are a beautiful strong person. If you ever want to chat off the group chat as well feel free to message me... Pretty name😁.. It's actually my middle name
Hello Lve2dance!! Thank you 🙏 for your reply!! And thank you for saying that I’m a beautiful strong person. With my family…all comments directed to/or at me are insults, criticisms or just toxic in general. I’m wondering if in your pseudonym….the Lve is short for Live OR Love? Either one could make sense!! And of course it’s none of my business…just curious is all. Thank you…yes. I like the name Michelle. Is yours with one L or 2??? Yes…I would LOVE 💕 to chat privately. I will send you a message ASAP. I’m just checking in right now. Have killer migraine. Ughh!! The worst. As soon as I can see straight & type more…I will message you…either later or sometime tomorrow. Have a peaceful 😴 evening!! 🌺
love 😍.. I danced since I was like 3 or 4😁.. And 2 l's in my middle name
Hi, I feel the same sometimes even with people around. I hate being alone but never use to be this way. I have a dog and she helps a lot. I hope you have a good day.
everyone is amazing here 😁 and very helpful..
welcome to the group dont worry about how it works just talk to those in the group and you will get out of it what you need people on here want to help others as they gave experience the some problems and p.s we dont bite take care and all the best
Welcome and you are doing just fine. It takes courage to come here and post but it is definitely worth it - good for you. You will soon get over the nervousness and enjoy the community, hope you find it helpful for you.
I know the feeling VERY well. Just take one day at a time👍😶
give yourself a chance and you will get to know how it all works X
Not what you're looking for?
You may also like...
HELP ME PLEASE
I need help I’m a 21 year old guy who’s been out of work since late July early August it stared...
Please help me
I’m really in need of your words. I don’t know what to do and can’t ask for support from my parents...
Help me please
Well I’m back again, sorry to be such a pain, I’m just so fearful, I’ve had a lot of tests done for...
Someone please help me
Sorry to bother you all but I’m in a right state of panic I’ve had anxiety for a few days now and...
Help Me Please.
Hi I hope all of you are safe and well as well as your family’s. As many of you who follow me know...
Somebody please help me
Help me 
Help please 
Please help Moderation team
ADAATeamRachelPartner
ADAATeamLisePartner
