My friend is unsatisfied with what i wrote, uses her term "inadequate" again, my roommates are moving out, i feel unwell, i'm overwhelmed

[Against_the_current]

Again the beetles in her brain make her go harsh and i feel bad because that's my only friend and because she payed me.

My roommates are moving out and i have to either move out too or find new ones, and have the bills on my name and pay rent by going to the landlords. And i have an option of an unimate to live here, she's just a bit annoying, but at least i know her and i can tell her what not to do, because anyway i'm gonna live with someone.

My friend keeps on texting about the homework and i feel unwell and overwhelmed but she already payed me

[MaggieSylvie]

People around you are being unnecessarily unkind. First, you need to take care of yourself sufficiently that you are able to deal with one problem at a time.

Could you talk to your landlord? There is clearly something there that needs to be sorted out.

The criticism you are receiving from your friend is negative. She is not a good "tutor" (if that's the role she thinks she is playing) as her help is inadequate: there is nothing positive in it. So long as you leave the lines of communication open between you, you are hardly likely to feel better.

Try to find a roommate who is not too friendly or too chatty. In the long run this kind of relationship can serve you better. Once you've found someone who will leave you alone you will have more chance of healing and of getting more focused on your studies. Think things through while you take some time out and then take action.😊

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

Thank you. I frozen communication with her for now. She really thinks she's right and i betrayed her, while she's just rude. I really want introvert roommates but i don't know how to find them. I can't tell the landlords to write "only introverts" and it's kinda hard. Espessially that my other friend wants to live here but i don't know whether she will follow my rule "leave me alone". I really have a lot of stuff to do and i'm scared and overwhelmed and i will really try to take it one day at a time

[MaggieSylvie in reply to Against_the_current]

You could just request "quiet" applicants, which might be a better description of what you could live with rather than "introvert". If they are too introvert, you might start suffering anxiety about whether you have upset them. Just a thought - I seem to have got it right mostly!🤗

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

Yeah just the thing is that it doesn't really rely on me. And my unimate wants to live here, we're like friends but she isn't from the quiet ones but i still have no garantee the person i would get instead of her will be quiet and maybe i will try to set boudaries because with the other future roommates i can't but with her i can and probably would feel better for my autumn depression. Idk

[MaggieSylvie]

There are no guarantees for anything in this life and you say it doesn't all depend on you. There's a new semester starting; perhaps you could do some people-watching and choose someone who is perhaps lacking in confidence or just quite shy, perhaps someone with similar interests to yourself outside studying. Remember, that you are in the perfect position for setting the rules and boundaries, without them being set in stone. You have the wisdom of the past year to draw on, so try not to get tangled up in anything that would lead you to make poor choices. You might also be very useful to a fresher, knowing your way around and all that. Good luck.

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

Thanks. And yeah i can set boudaries and rules now. Just i don't think i can search for roommates the campus because they will already have places If it started

[MaggieSylvie in reply to Against_the_current]

Could you go to the Students' Union and see if they have any students still looking, or not happy with their placement? At least you'd be able to talk to someone about your own problems.

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

I don't think we have students union here, will check

[MaggieSylvie]

Well, where would you go to enrol on a course, to ask to change courses, to report another student for attacking you physically?

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

we don't have such place, maybe the inspector. But she doesn't know where people are living