My friend said really harsh things

[Against_the_current]

We had a deal to write her assignments and she pays me instead of paying much more to a straingers. Today i'm traveling to mom's and i have a few hours and am nervious and i wanted to write it before i go. I texted her to ask something and she snapped out at me. She had rough night, drinking, drugs, lost her keys and headphones (and even accused me of stealing them). She told me i'm not adequate rn, i told her she's not adequate and she got mad.

This was my only irl friend

I stressed before traveling, trying to rwite it instead of chilling

Am i really the bad guy? I told her i have no clue what she's talking about and If it's because i complain and i'm negative, i iwll stop, everyone has flaws. Do i drive away everyone? Thank you mom and dad trauma , i lost my best friend f

And just before traveling

[fauxartist]

A real friend would not use you like that and dump and project. You might want to re-evaluate what you are really getting from this relationship. You sometimes have to close doors to find ones open to you. I had to learn each time I changed and left a relationship what was not healthy, so that I didn't repeat the same unhealthy behavior. Your worth more than you think, validate you... and don't except less.

[Against_the_current in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you. She made it as If i'm the narc and she deserves more

[Blueruth]

I think her behavior is completely in line with paying to have someone else do their homework and use the guise of friendship to get a bargain. You have another friend. It’s you. You could be a better friend to yourself and you will see how people like that aren’t worth your time.

[Against_the_current in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks. Just with my trauma i really need someone and i settle for a lot below my standarts

[Blueruth in reply to Against_the_current]

No you don't. I know you are in a different country but we must find a way for you to find a better set of friends. That means knowing like we do that you are perfect as you are.

[Against_the_current in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks. I really need friends but because of my trauma i get ppl Who give up on me and ppl Who are no good

[Blueruth in reply to Against_the_current]

I think you attract people like that because of esteem. But I'm telling you, you are just fine event with trauma. You just need to learn how to believe it.

[Against_the_current in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks. I need better self-esteem, my family always humiliated me

[Blueruth in reply to Against_the_current]

I bet you could benefit from brene brown. A lot of what you exhibit is shame. She teaches you how to be resilient when you feel that way. It is actually a learned emotion. Empathy is the opposite and it is something you can learn too.

[Hidden]

That isnt a friend, you are being used and you are better off without that.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Thanks, i hope so

[Hidden]

Do not do her homework assignments for her!!!! Maybe you can use the money but what the hell is she learning??? How to use you? Forget about counting this person as a friend. And stay away from her if she’s doing drugs around you. I hope some things start to get better for you. I know you’ve been really stressed out.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

She would use someone else but just give them more money while i do discount and also i'm broke, you know my situation and my parents and my work abilities. Also this is Bulgaria. And this is the least problem. With what dad did to me here i am getting into shadow shemes

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

It’s true you live in Bulgaria and I have no idea what that’s like, but I can tell you right now, this is a bad arrangement. There’s got to be some better and more legitimate ways to make some money than doing her assignments for her. She’s flat out using you. You can find better friends than her.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

I deserve better friends and work but i can't find them because of my society, trauma, World problems..

[Midori]

Why can't she do her own assignments? College is to learn and prove you have learned by doing your own work, not farming it off to other people.

That is really not on and Would probably get you both thrown out if the lecturers found out.

She is using you.

Cheers, Midori

[Against_the_current in reply to Midori]

She would use someone else but just give them more money while i do discount and also i'm broke, you know my situation and my parents and my work abilities. Also this is Bulgaria. And this is the least problem. With what dad did to me here i am getting into shadow shemes