Moved out

[Lookingforhope20100]

I moved out today and my family wasn't happy. I didn't expect them to be but they did the opposite of what I expected they said I was dead to them for moving out and I broke all my promises I made to them and that I hurt them but they don't care about me they care about my money and my kid that's it they didn't say they loved me like I wanted them to they basically said they hate me my mom is crushed and said that if she relapses it's my fault bcuz I took everything from her.... I'm so stressed I have stomach ulsters but I can't stay in that house it's time for me to be on my own

[Hidden]

Well you have moved out and its time to think of yourself and not them so put a smile on your face and start living the way that you want to.

Your future is all yours now and you can do anything you want.

It's time for you to enjoy your life.

[Mrspjsmom]

Doing what is best for you and your daughter is what's most important now. Hopefully your family will come around in time. But if they don't don't take on their guilt. It will destroy you. I did that far too long. Even decades after my parents and grandfather had passed away. I hope everything works out well for you.

[Midori]

Lots of emotional abuse here. Your Mum, particularly.

It is Not your fault if she says she is crushed and if she relapses it's your fault because you took everything from her. That is classical abusive behaviour.

What a strange family you have if you are now dead to them because you are moving out. Seems as if all they care about is the money, and that is Sooo toxic. You will be better off without them.

Please give them no chance to blow up your phone, block them until you can bear to speak to them, and even then, be prepared to block them again.

My late husband was like this, always about him, and always blaming and belittling me.

You can heal from this, it takes time, and work, but please think positively!

Good luck in your new home.

Cheers, Midori

[designguy]

Wow, sounds like you are living in and probably grew up in a very abusive home situation. Good for you for putting your and your kid's needs first and taking care of yourself. Keep moving forward and making progress, there is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your needs first!