I don't have hope for the future

[pgskatepg]

I'm 67, happily married for the second time. Sex addict first husband. For the past year my adult sons 30 and 35 don't want to speak to me. Finally one wrote I'm toxic. I don't treat them as adults, one said I don't respect him as an introvert. I and everyone knows I've been a super supportive, non invasive nice mother. He said I wanted to confide in him. What? Never.

[Celtic274]

At your time in life be yourself the spoilt so called sons should grown up and get a life

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It sounds like your son felt overwhelmed by you whether it is true or not. You can only let him come to you when he’s ready. Enjoy your second chance finding love. BOL✌️

[Balloffur2468]

I’m glad that you are now in a happy marriage. Perhaps you can sit back for a bit. I’m an introvert myself and usually like my space. Do some things for yourself and journal. I’m curious to know why they think you are toxic. You could make a list of possible reasons to unpack it with yourself.

[Ryanlion]

You need to listen to your sons if you want a relationship with them. Adult children rarely verbally attack their parents without reason. I would suggest seeking out a counsellor who may be able to help you. Even if others say you are a super mum your sons clearly dont think so, for some reason. Please dont lose them, they need you but wont admit it.

[Bella_lee]

Hi @pgskatepg so great that you've find love and happiness second time around. I do also understand how hurtful it must be for you, that your sons don't want to talk to you.

Do you think something might have occurred especially to do with your first marriage (I'm guessing your first H is father to your two sons) that you're not aware of and which they both have not shared with you that is causing the rift.

If they don't want to talk, maybe write them a letter, might be easier for them to communicate via this method for now.

Also consider counseling for all of you if they can agree. When there is hurt and break up in a family, help can be needed for members of the family to heal properly and a lot of wrong assumptions can take place if there is no true communication.

I hope with time you're able to resolve this situation and the relationship between you and your sons is restored, Stay strong and hopeful dear friend.