Helping someone who doesn't ask for help

[Random_Girl]

Hey everyone! Been struggling a lot with my ex being depressed. We were together for a long time, he's such a sweet and caring person, but i noticed he's getting more and more depressed as time goes by. We are immigrants so we don't have a lot of friends or family here, that's why despite the break I still care about him and I don't want him to feel alone. The thing is, all this is starting to have a weight on my own well-being. Maybe someone is going through the same here? Or have some advice or a different perspective on things? Thanks!

[Frost77]

When I parted from my partner we have remained really good friends and spend a lot of time together. He knows, as I do that as a couple we didn’t really work but as friends we’ve had years of great times. Try and get him to talk to a doctor because there is medication and talking therapy that can help so much.

I’ve suffered with depression and major anxiety (I’m mainly housebound at this time) for the last 30 years and there has been times that sleeping has been my best friend because I can’t face life…. But please know it’s like the weather….. it changes. There is more help for emotional health now than I’ve ever known.

Prayers and blessings to you both.

[Random_Girl in reply to Frost77]

Thanks for taking the time to read and answer! Thanks for your advice! Hope things will get better for you soon

[Blueruth]

You are right to be concerned for yourself. That needs to be your first concern. Try to find professionals or resources to help him. If you can get universal healthcare there may be free care. There might be low cost or free options locally. Also online. I know the culture in Latin America isn’t great for mental health but if you are in a city you might find something.

[Random_Girl in reply to Blueruth]

Thanks for you answer. The thing is that he isn't really opening himself for help or a discussion, that's why it's so complicated, because if the person affected isn't ready to look for help there's no much I can do. I'm going to try to talk to him about getting some help. Thanks again!

[Blueruth in reply to Random_Girl]

New In Columbia… I imagine that is challenging. Both because it is new and because the resources might be different from what you are used to.