Someone who can relate please..

I just moved far away from my parents who I was living with upto now..i just realised how toxic they are and my sister is twice as much..I have been mentally and physically abused by all three but didn't realise how much this has impacted on me because I thought it was my fault all along...this has been going on for thirty years...now I have no confidence, esteem and everything else..now that I've moved away from these people, my depression and anxiety has worsen cause I've always longed to be close with family and it hurts cause I don't want to see them anymore and im scarred..all three of their faces and voices pop up in my head even in my sleep..anyone else cut off family and recovered?..thanks in advance

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I give you much credit on moving out on your own. You just took a big step. 👍🏻

You pretty much have started a new life in a new direction. A toxic family is unhealthy to be around.

We all have the capability of bringing back our confidence. It’s in you as it is in all of us. You just need to go a little deeper to find it. When you do, you will feel it. Your fear and anxiety will fade away because you are in control now.

I feel what you go through. I myself at times feel cut off as to distant with family. There is much I wish could of changed from the past, but I just let it all go. Began focusing more on the future since that is where the rest of my life is. You should do the same and make it all for the better. 😊

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Thank you so much...I needed to hear your support and understanding...

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Hi I am in the same situation with my family and it's surprising once you get rid of the toxic people how quickly you can start healing.

As your family can't give you the love and kindness you deserve you have to make your own family of friends. You can't get blood out of a stone which is something I realised many years ago. x

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Thank you..yes, it's the healing im more concerned...right now im scarred but I just want to know if I'll heal and be better...thank you heaps..

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

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I read her book it’s good .

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Thanks Allen234...

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Your welcome.

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I can see that taking such a big step would be scary. I think "scary" is a way our mind tells us to protect ourselves. You've just done that! Try out life without that constant daily contact. I'll think you'll surprise yourself how easy it will be to get to know the "you, out of the shadow". Jump into that life!

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Thank you..

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I haven't talked to my sister or brother in 20 years. They don't even know my child or have seen her. I only talk to my mom by phone and she lives close for years now. I told her I will call you period.

I have survived without family but I do get lonely and jealous when people talk about their sisters in particular. She should be my best friend but she has never given me a second thought.

Sometimes it's healthier to be without. I just think it's hard on our children.

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thank you