My sister said she doesn't want me and i'm annoying

[Against_the_current]

We are traveling home and she said it. I'm afraid she doesn't want me home and thinks i'm a burden, insane. Dad, the proffesional gaslighter, may have told her i'm insane and annoying and it's time for me to stay there. Dad and mom find everyone annoying. The only thing they have in common. I'm scared she outgrown me, i miss her and i want to play with her, but she doesn't like me. And she's only grow up more and more while i'm away.

[Therapist104]

Oh my god... you poor baby! I don't know what to say to make you feel better, but I'm sending hugs from across the ocean. Let me know if you want to talk about it, I'm always here for you.

[Against_the_current in reply to Therapist104]

Thank you so much 😭😭🤗

[Therapist104 in reply to Against_the_current]

Of course. Now, you message me if you need anything, or if you simply just want to talk

[TrustYourSoul]

How old is your sister?

[Against_the_current in reply to TrustYourSoul]

15

[TrustYourSoul]

15 is a challenging age. Hormones, teenage drama, etc. Your sister lives in a broken family, in a home with your alcoholic mother. This has to be very hard for her. You live someplace else, so if she doesn't have many good friends her age, your sister's life is twice as hard as yours. If only your mother wasn't drinking, things might be better, although if your grandmother lives there too, it sounded like she was very negative on your trip, and would be hard to be around. In reality, it's really your younger sister who is in a much worse situation than you? Just trying to piece together the things you have shared.

Why don't you just try to take your sister to a park and talk. Just the two of you. Ask her questions in a non-defensive way. Try to find out how she feels about life. Let her know you won't leave her. Try your best to keep it as positive as possible. Listen more than you talk, and keep your voice low and calm. This is very important. Keeping your voice volume down is key to diffusing verbal situations.

I get the impression that there is a lot of yelling that occurs in your family, including from you. Do NOT accept this, or nothing will ever be fixed. You might have to choose to stay away from most of your family, most of the time, and this would be understandable, and is Not Wrong. Just reassure your younger sister that she can always find you.

If you visit your Mother, calmly make it clear to her that if you do, and she is drunk or starts drinking, you will IMMEDIATELY leave, then be sure you do it. No words as you leave. Just do it. Nobody learns or changes if people around them tolerate their poor behavior. You need to keep yourself together now, behave well, Remain CALM AND STRONG, walk away and stay away if you need to, and invite your sister to always be able to call you or meet with you privately if she wants you.

If you decide not to do any of the above, then your only option is to Surrender, Accept, and Not Complain any further about negative family things. The choice is solely Yours. This is the Only life you get. Please stop letting others steal your Peace and Happiness. Ok? Be Strong, Breathe, and Stay Calm! 💜

[Against_the_current in reply to TrustYourSoul]

That sounds terrible 😭

[Therapist104 in reply to TrustYourSoul]

Um, your giving her anxiety attacks. Please try and be a little more kind about your words or the meaning behind them. Not to be rude, or anything. I don't really know what set her off, but all I'm asking is to be a little more kind.

[Isinatra in reply to Therapist104]

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[TrustYourSoul]

Ok. Sorry. I guess I won't reply to you again. Just trying to help, since you continue, almost every day, to ask for help on this site. Every post from you is negative, filled with turmoil, and you sound helpless. What do you want, if you don't really want help? Again, I think I won't reply to you again if my effort to help sounded "terrible". I hope you will find your way to peace and happiness.🙇‍♀️

[teen_anxiety in reply to TrustYourSoul]

To me, it doesn't sound like she was saying your advice was terrible but then again maybe I wouldn't understand either way I'm glad you attempted to help I've been feeling like I'm not as helpful anymore or that nobody cares about my posts anymore and I know that makes me sound like a terrible or annoying person but I mean the point of ranting is so that you can get your feelings out and talk about them so you can move on and at this point; I feel like I'm talking to the people who work on the computers and they probably get entertainment on a boring day from them. You know what never mind sorry I just wanted to help you not feel bad about what you did and say that you might not have impacted who you intended to, impact but instead, I ended up putting more issues at your feet.

[Isinatra in reply to teen_anxiety]

It was very thoughtful of you to try to smooth out ruffled feathers. Thank you. 😊

[teen_anxiety in reply to Isinatra]

thanks

[Isinatra]

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