Crazy Guy

[Lookingforhope20100]

so I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago, and I found out the last few days that he is crazy he is possessive and weird and he just assumes that we are dating but last I checked I wasn't asked. all he wants is sex and nudes and stuff along those lines. But he is also kind which is why I liked him to begin with but now that I know him he kinda creeps me out and annoys me and I really don't really know what to do I don't really know him all that well just from the little bit I collected talking to him and every time he says something sexual to me I say "not anytime soon" but he keeps doing those things. do I ignore it, tell him straight out, or just block him and avoid him when I do see him I really don't know what I'm going to do so any advice will help.

[b1b1b1]

I get a red flag feeling from your post. I would minimize this relationship while being careful for your own safety.

[Lookingforhope20100 in reply to b1b1b1]

That's mostly what I'm worried about is my own safety and my daughters safety I don't think he will hurt anyone but that's a choice I'm not willing to take

[b1b1b1 in reply to Lookingforhope20100]

Maybe give him a gentle excuse and end the relationship. The longer it goes on the harder it may be to end it.

[Arie11e]

If he is doing those things, block him, now.

[hypercat54]

Well unless you want a guy who is crazy, possessive, and weird (why would anyone) it's past time you gave him the heave ho. He is just a sexual predator and like b1 I see a red flag. In fact I see a lot of them.

[Midori]

Keep a record of all his communications while telling him you aren't going do do these things he asks, then consult a lawyer about a Cease and Desist letter.

Unfortunately he sounds like the type to not give in easily, so be prepared to take it further legally.

Cheers, Midori

[Arkus]

I’d get rid of him asap. I’ve not been in that position but it doesn’t sound safe or healthy and your second sense is telling you that. If he’s legit, he should go without a peep. If you feel he’s going to pursue you, you might say that you need to sort some legal stuff out, or that you are excited about a visit from a cousin who is a policeman, you get the idea. Put a bit of muscle into your decision.

[gilded_masquerade]

If you have an off feeling about him, I’d block him. Don’t even second guess it. I’m not sure what platform you’re conversing with him on but if possible, try to make your account private too in the event that he tries to make another account.I agree with Midori, keep ALL the messages in the event that he starts to get worse, for you and your daughters safety.

In instances like this, you’re better off cutting contact as soon as possible before it really starts to get out of hand.

I hope this is all resolved soon and that he takes the hint.

Take care 🖤

[YellowSongbird]

I am a tell them straight out kind of person. I don’t like leaving any doors open if I don’t have the intentions to continue any kind of connection.

[Zhangliqun]

I have to be blunt -- why would you even remotely consider ever talking to this guy again? You say you're not dating so I'm not gonna even ask if you have had sexual relations with him so I will assume you haven't and say, keep it that way. Because even if he is genuinely kind at times, remember that Ted Bundy was very kind and charming to his victims in the early going.

That's not to say this guy is a genocidal maniac but I strongly suspect the reason he is at times so kind is not because he is a genuinely kind man but so he can get the 'sex and the nudes', etc. At most, you're just a potential scratching post to him. He is a pervert and a creep. To paraphrase Forrest Gump's mother, creepy is as creepy does. You really need to learn to be able to see through guys like this right away.

You need to cut off all contact with this man, yesterday, and start looking for a much higher grade of man. If after cutting him off he keeps coming at you, it may be time to talk to the cops.