Thinking that im cursed

[Tonyhope]

Hello everyone, im a 45yr old male that do not have a relationship with none of my children. It hurts very bad that my kids don't love me. Their from different women with the same judge of character for me. I really don't no what I did wrong. They've made comments about how they wish i was dead an they're very disrespectful. I never received a birthday card or even a call. I admit that it was issues between me an their mom's. But I never did anything to them. They never seen the nasty things their mom's said I did. Im alone. No family at all. It's times I want to jump off a cliff and that's the truth. It's just seem very unfair to me.

[Blueruth]

They probably have a story to tell if you ask. It is definitely possible to hurt your children by doing nothing. But it is never too late to ask someone in the family or them why.

[Agora1]

Dearest Tony, I am so sorry to read about the situation between you and your children.Depending what their ages are, it sounds like they may have been brainwashed by

their moms. For the most part, all children need that male figure in their lives. A mom and

a dad. I understand the pain you feel, it's not fair and is truly sad for someone who wants

to be a part of their lives.

I would hope when they get older, they will make their own decisions to connect with you.

I never say never because we don't know what life has in store for us down the road.

As much as it hurts tremendously now, my wish is that you reap in the benefits and love

of these children in the near future.

We cannot control how others act but we can control how we accept the situation right now.

I'm sorry you have no family but these children. We're here to support you my friend

because we care. Please stay safe. xx

[Midori in reply to Agora1]

That is my opinion also.

Cheers, Midori

[Roxylox]

Sympathy for you here. I have seen Dads can often get a raw deal in separation, hope l'm not generslising too much.It's a tough situation.

Can you maybe find a hobby for ypurself as a distraction, maybe a poor suggestion, sorry.

I suppose they were only fed one side of a story.

Perhaps there's a support group for men in a situation like yours.

Please don't take notice of the terrible things

Said to you.

At least there is hope in your username.

[Arymretep]

That’s so sad, most families go through these bad times and your children have probably got just one side of the story, hopefully as they grow older and more curious they will reach out to you, be there when they need you.

My Mum had trouble with a daughter in law who kept the grandchildren away from her, which upset her very much, but as they grew up and had their own minds they got to know the full story, and became close to her, so please don’t give up , do you send them birthday cards etc so that they know that whatever happens you will be there for them

[Indyra420]

I woke up this morning in tears. Just a caring word is all that’s needed. But they think they are protecting themselves. Trying to callous my heart. This hurts too much. Another year with no family gatherings. Caring is HELL.

[Indyra420]

I hope your day is good. But I know that not even winning the lottery can keep this feeling in check. Scream from the mountain top. I need voodoo.

[Indyra420]

Cursed pain.

[Indyra420]

Calls go straight to voice mail.

[Tonyhope in reply to Indyra420]

Im sorry im not understanding your message