I don't know where or how to get help. I've tried to reach out on and off for years the last time I tried to get counseling help they told me it was only for families or teenagers which validated my feelings of helplessness. I'm 40 and I can't believe I put up with this crap for so long my mom has been dr. Jekyll and mr. Hyde all my life. If I wasn't surrounded by normal stable healthy relationships at work I still wouldn't know that her behavior wasn't okay.
But my mom doesn't know she has this problem and I'm afraid to find the one that tells her she's going to lash out like she typically does.