Sad and alone

[Matchless21]

Feeling very sad today as I feel my former life slowly slipping away. I know there's things I should be happy about but there's no one to share it with. I just got a promotion at work and I should be thrilled but I really don't care. I go to work and I come home.

My husband is making a new life with his new girlfriend and I'm trying to be the bigger person and be happy for him but I feel so broken.

People say "just move on", "your better off without him", "his loss".... But it's not that easy, he was my everything for 24 years.

In the 2 years we've been separated I have been on 2 dates and both times I found myself sitting there comparing them to him. Picking them apart and finding all their flaws...they didn't stand a chance. What's wrong with me ??? I feel like I'm my own worst enemy.

[Hidden]

Hi there. I'm sorry you're hurting. I can only imagine what you're going through.You've got one thing right, and that is that we are our own worst enemy. It's really hard to carry your worst enemy around with you 24/7. I'm grieving the loss of my mom, and have been ever since she passed in August. If I've learned anything in this process, it is to be kind to and patient with myself. Things take the time they take, and that includes grief.

[Matchless21 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your understanding. I'm sorry for the loss of your mom. I can't imagine how that must feel and I'm not looking forward to it either. My mom is 73 and as much as she drives me nuts I can't imagine life without her

[Hidden in reply to Matchless21]

Thank you. She was 66.

[Arymretep]

Hi, it must be so hard after 24 years, and so sad when you still love someone and that love is not returned, there’s nothing wrong with you, you sound as if you are still in love with your husband and that’s a problem as he has made another life for himself and that’s it, so you. must try and make you own life now, it’s so hard but it’s the only way forward, take care

[Midori]

Get out and meet people. in a coffee shop or similar, there is no pressure, and no expectations. It can lead to greater things.

A the moment you need to address the depression first, rather than looking for a new man. Just go out, coffee shops, just walking if you like it. Have a look in your local library for groups you are interested in. Nearly all will advertise. There are groups for all interests.

Park the partner hunt until you have a group of friends you can chat with.

You need to make the effort, because folk won't look for you.

Cheers, Midori

[Matchless21 in reply to Midori]

I'm not looking for a new man. It's my friends that are pushing the issue bc they don't want me to be alone.

[Midori in reply to Matchless21]

Ah I understand now. I thought that as your husband was in a new relationship you would also be looking . My bad. I apologise.

Cheers, Midori

[Matchless21 in reply to Midori]

Thank you. ..Sometimes I wish I could move on in hopes that it would help ease my pain but I just have no interest.