Hard day

[Jsteve36]

Having a hard day, still have this lingering feeling of impending doom, I feel as if there is nowhere to turn to and I feel as if I am burdening my wife with my emotions and continuous anxiety she has even cried because of how I have been.

This health anxiety is costing both of us a lot, for my wife it's more emotional watching me fall apart , for me it is emotional and physical , I try to get out of bed and occupy my mind with other tasks and positive thoughts but no matter what I do they come rushing back like flood water , If we or I watch anything to do with a death or someone battling cancer I tear up thinking that's going g to be me.

I can't seem to find a way out of this repetitive loop, it's really bad.

[Celtic27]

Hi there jsteve I would think you wife is more responsive to your problem than you think don't think she is getting bothered by you crying as females are more receptive to a males emotions try not to watch thinks that trigger this type of response! Are you seeing anyone about how you are feeling if not now may be the right time to seek help! I wish you and your wife in going forward all the best 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[Hidden in reply to Celtic27]

Hello David it can happen at the most unusual times, never expected. Yes it is not as bad now as it was then. Show I am still a softy

BOB

[Hidden]

Sometimes I feel the same regarding films on Television etc, I was just as bad as a child, If I teard up I was told in no uncertain terms to grow up and be a man. Now at seventy I still tear up and I have to go and get something to drink that seems to work

BOB

[b1b1b1]

Are you seeing a psychiatrist? I think it would be very helpful. Most of them, at least where I live, only do FaceTime appointments, but that seems to work well.

[Jsteve36 in reply to b1b1b1]

Don't have the means to do so right now

[Salma2289]

Hello my dear, i am sorry for what you are going through and I don’t have much to say, but all I wanna tell you is to remember that this place will never be permanent no matter how long it will take, just keep going and doing what you have to do and I really wish peace for you and your wife.

[fromzerotopanic]

Hi, sorry you’re having a rough go of things. But just know you are among kindred spirits here! I, like you, suffer from health anxiety so I can definitely relate to your struggles. I was having a really rough time this past fall. Something triggered it again and it returned with a vengeance! Everyone is different but I finally found something that has helped me. Is it perfect? No. But it takes time. Was I able to get to a point where I can go through a day without thinking about it or having a sense of doom over my head? Yes!! Through a few people on this site, I found the works of Dr Claire Weekes, and then the DARE Response to. anxiety. I HIGHLY recommend you go to YouTube and search Michelle Cavanaugh (she’s one of the DARE counselors). Search for the DARE Steps, 1-4, then especially her video called “what if”! I’ll tell you right now, you’re not going to like what will be the answer to getting rid of your anxiety!! But until we can accept the fact that what we afraid if “could” happen, we will continue to have the fear response to what we fear! The problem with us is, we want complete assurance we will never get whatever we’re afraid of (cancer, heart attack, stroke..whatever we fear). But we know that no one can give us total assurance. No one can get that! But on the flip side, we know we “could” get it (as can anyone). Problem is, we don’t know if we have 99% chance or a .00099 % chance (of course we assume the worst)! The “what if” video really helped with that whole thing. But watch Steps 1-4 to understand the concepts first. They’re not overly long. Hopefully they’ll help you!