Anxiety and depression: toxic friendship among other things

[Ajb8686]

Been suffering with anxiety and depression for the past few years. Few things sent me down a dark path. First, my coworker/friend was sexual assaulted at work by a fellow coworker. He was also a friend(not my friend anymore). Second, I recently cut off my best friend due to her drinking problem. Ever feel like you were never enough for some of your friends? That’s how it’s made me feel. Not only is she an alcoholic but she’s a bad friend. I gave most of the effort and wasn’t appreciated for it. It mentally drained to say the least. It’s starting to effect my other friendships. I keep thinking I’m not enough for them as well. Constant negative thinking about ridiculous things. Is my friend mad if she isn’t reply to my texts or she hasn’t reached out in awhile. I honestly don’t know where to start. I’m on medication but that can only help so much. Sorry long post. First for me. Any thoughts?

[CarlJames]

It sounds to me like you are a good guy, trying to do the right thing. It's important to set boundaries with people who want to take advantage of you. When it comes to toxic friends. try to be clear with yourself and then with them about what you will and won't accept, and what you will and won't do, and then stick to it. Some people may unfortunately cut off contact. But those that are prepared to respect you will stay friends.

I believe the best thing we can do is to focus on our relationship with ourselves. When we get that sorted out, it's like magic - people seem to respond to us so much more honestly and respect and like us a lot more. But it starts with us giving that love and respect to ourselves first. We need to learn how to like and respect ourselves just the way we are, with nothing about us having to change before we do so.

Sorry, went off on a bit of a ramble, but yeah I think you're on the right track.

[Ajb8686 in reply to CarlJames]

Thank you for the kind words. Sometimes the right thing is the hardest. I’ll always do the right thing though. I’ll keep doing my best.

[AdamFCastillo31]

Anxiety and depression both are serious mental illnesses. You should seek professional help but as therapy/counseling. Counseling is the best way to treat depression and anxiety it helps you learn and control your triggers. Sometimes it may combine with medication depending on cause and severity. Be empathetic towards the concerned individualRecognize their sign and symptoms

Build confidence and have a conversation about their struggles and issues

Be a compassionate listener

Seek professional help from a mental health expert

Help motivate the individual to shift to a healthy lifestyle

Please have a look here ezcareclinic.com/therapies-... I am sure you will be able to find help.

[Ajb8686]

Agreed. I’m actually being treated by a doctor right now. I’m on medication and therapy. Definitely going to take time. You’re right it’s something you can handle on your own