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Why can't i feel good? I'm anxious all the time and If i'm not anxious i'm depressed. I'm always Overthinking something. For example i wanted to leave 5 stars to my doctor because he was really kind and is really saving my life and am worried whether i clicked less stars. And i can't check it. Others can feel positive emotions and even when i'm not dying from my issues real and mental, i'm feeling tourmented on the inside. What's wrong with me? I know nothing but pain. Always something is worrying me. And i can't cope. For a person that overthinks so much, that is sensetive, that is intelligent to the point others' ignorance distorbted me, i'm really cloudy headed. I can't think. I can't feel good emotions. My best state is still depressed and silently struggling.

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Marysblue

It's all depression. I'm so sorry you feel bad. I feel same way alot. Does anything help? Music, nature, sunshine, walks, funny TV shows. Treat yourself like you would a friend suffering, be kind. Hopefully it will pass soon.

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Against_the_current in reply to Marysblue

Exactly and i'm sorry you feel like this too. And exactly those things help, thanks for the reminder and the kindness 💕

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Ethily_mf

Hi..I am overthinker too.. if i come to know something.. i make it a point to think about it till i start hurting myself with the result of my thinking..

I m too in constant pain.. to shut myself off evrything i hv started to watch a lot of stuff on netflix.. even if i m working i keep the series i m watching on in the bckground.. its like i try to run from the thots..

But attyms we really need to do tht.. just not think..

I dont knw hw to love myself.. but i m really trying

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Against_the_current in reply to Ethily_mf

Same. I don't even watch netflix or something productive. New shows are triggering me, i just play dumb stuff to fill the void. I don't pay any attention to. Normal people are always bragging about what they watch and i feel even worse

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fromzerotopanic

I understand the feeling of worrying if you did or didn't do something correctly. It goes along with OCD where you doubt everything! But first, when you were writing your review, you were focused on what you were doing. It's only later that you started to question, 'what if" I didn't give 5 stars?!! So then, try to think, what's the worst that could happen if you did 'accidentally' only leave 2 stars? Highly unlikely anyone would change their mind about the doctor based on one review, and your doctor won't know either. So even in worst case scenario, nothing bad will happen if you accidentally left a bad review. And again, you were focused on what you were doing at the time, but your anxiety is flaring up so causing you to question everything! Just try to tell your anxiety 'yeah, whatever'! And focus your thoughts onto a task you need to do at work or around the house! Just know you don't have to suffer silently, because you aren't alone in this, there are many of us struggling just like you, but there is hope!

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Against_the_current in reply to fromzerotopanic

Yeah it's really questioning ocd. And thank you

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misslillie

I get the over thinking problem. I am on my sixth day of overthinking a situation/event/problem regarding an issue involving my sister. Haven't had a moment's peace in almost a week. I too am looking at a way to get out of my head even for a while. I have been investigating some strategies in treating OCD which I am applying to my tendency to overthink almost every thing. Perhaps you could try that route.

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Against_the_current in reply to misslillie

Yeah, Absolutely same. What coping strategies do you use?

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misslillie

In the process of applying meditation - even a few minutes helps. It means for a few minutes I am not obssessing. I guess health distraction is what I am after.

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Against_the_current in reply to misslillie

Oh yes so much! I'm trying guilded mindfulness meditations lately and it's really good to stop worrying for a few minutes

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Adlon57

Yes I get times like that, my system actually 'likes' stress, I have just finished a 'crash' course of scans/tests etc, from flu jab beginning of October, at least ten appointments all over the general area, I thought when I got my booster jab on Tuesday, I would be jumping around like a five year old? But no, actually hoping another appointment [which they forgot about] would turn up, I have epilepsy with seizures that thrive on pressure and anxiety🥴had them for so long over 50 years, my system actually needs them to 'perk' up my system. almost like a drug, very macabre? Looking for those stress triggers, as soon as I wake up, a real hypochondriac 😤it just can't adjust to lack of STRESS! Essentially I really need a long holiday😗🤗

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Against_the_current in reply to Adlon57

Really good describtion. I understand this so well and it's really hard

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Adlon57 in reply to Against_the_current

Thanks Glonk nice to hear someone can appreciate my dilemma!👍

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Against_the_current in reply to Adlon57

Yeah i see you, i hear you and i know how hard it is. You're doing a great job

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Lve2dance

That is exactly how I feel. Sometimes it just cycles through.. Sometimes I'm at work every one is awesome but I can't pick myself up. I'm so sorry you feel like this.. I felt alone until I read your post

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Against_the_current in reply to Lve2dance

Sorry and glad we're not alone and i could express it so it resonates with the way you feel 💙

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