How does one live without love?

[Deepsee]

How does one live without love? I can't seem to find anyone to love and be loved by in return. It aches and twists my heart. Friendship, self love, family, strangers, my cat.. I have this love. But this particular kind of pain from not having a partner seems so encompassing at times. Am I asking to much from life, that the universe might lead me to another?

[NoMoreMasks]

I still hold on to the belief that my time will come. It’s just not the right time. Running a business and raising a teenager is pretty hectic anyways. So I believe that eventually I will have time for someone and maybe then they will come along. Maybe your time will come along eventually as well

[Nina2016]

Love from my Nina!

Little nina. She is as sweet as can be. My rescue kitty from NM reservation.

[Deepsee in reply to Nina2016]

Oh my God she is so cute - here's mine

Maddie

[Agora1 in reply to Deepsee]

Hi Maddie my first smile of the day! xx

[fieryangel]

Sometimes the more you search for something the more elusive it becomes...maybe start doing something a little bit different and through that love will come. A friend of a friend of mine started to walk her neighbours dog whilst the neighbour was ill with Covid and all of a sudden other dog people started to have a chat with her and her social life opened up and then she started going to events and last year she got married for the first time at 57 !

Learn to love yourself a little more - wear a shirt you don't normally wear and eat something different for dinner...try and go out if you can ...even just for a wander about...is there anything you are interested in ?? There are others like you and are sat at home right now wondering how THEY can meet people...you came on here so have already started to make friends ! Good luck and best wishes !

[Deepsee in reply to fieryangel]

Thanks so much - I love that story about your friend getting married at 57. I am indeed learning to love myself more it's just like ok already at times. I've spent a good portion of my life single and I'm just hoping for something more connected for a change. You're a gem.

[Midori]

Not everyone is blessed with a partner in this life, unfortunately.

How do you go about trying to find a partner? Do you look for beauty or is it a meeting of minds you mostly desire?

For me, Intelligence is the greatest turn on, although a pleasing, clean and tidy appearance does help.

Where do you go when you are not working? What work do you do?

Do you have any hobbies which could be useful?

Do you like music, dance, things that you would be likely to meet folk in doing, Art Classes, Craft classes. Any interest which you can do and be seen doing can spark a conversation which could lead to other things, or a group of similar minded friends. If you have a skill, could you teach it to others?

Volunteering is always a good one, and gets you meeting folk.

They won't beat a path to your door unless you meet them partway. Sit in coffee shops with a book, smile at folk, say good morning. Be pleasant to folk, and they will be pleasant back. Take an interest in what they do, there are endless ways of meeting folk.

Good luck!

Cheers, Midori

[Deepsee]

That's a lovely message full of good advice. I need to be more pro active. My job keeps me home and as I get older I just do less. Time to light a fire under my behind and force myself to get out there : ) thanks so much!

[Midori in reply to Deepsee]

You are welcome.

Cheers, Midori

[Daveacr1959]

Feeling the need for love like you do, is a good thing. Now you find another who feels and wants what you want. I have been with my wife 44 years. It’s not always easy. But we both fight for our love .

[ImUnstoppable]

Hello…I just saw this post as I am new to the group. I realize some time has passed but thought I’d share my response anyway. I feel the same. I’ve been on my own for so long it seems. Was married once, it ended with us still being friends. Had a relationship since then that was terribly abusive and certainly didn’t help with my depression/anxiety. I’ve been single ever since…5 years now. The pandemic made things worse of course. I was always a loner but now I’ve become almost reclusive. I’m alone pretty much all of time. I don’t have family and only a few friends. I have so much love to give yet i sit here day after day alone and lonely. I’ve decided that come spring, I’ll push myself to join groups..I’ll sign up as a volunteer too. Otherwise this lonely life will continue. I try to continue to have hope although some days are very hard. I hope things have gotten better for you. I just wanted you to know that I relate and hear/feel your pain.