How to love yourself???

[Starrlight]

If we don’t love ourselves then isn't it hard to feel that others love us? I love others much, so much, why then not myself? I don’t understand. How do you love yourself? It would break my heart if my kids didn’t love themselves. I’m just thinking out loud. I am breaking my own heart.

[Hidden]

I’m in the same boat. I’m thinking of you. I actually made a nice list of things to remember when I feel that way. Would you like me to type it to you later

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Sure if love to read it any time. Thanks HerOneandOnly

[Agora1]

Dearest Starrlight... sending you a heart warming video from YouTube

It's less than 5 minutes long. "Love Yourself (Self Confidence Exercise)

by the Honest Guys.

Sending you my love and gentle hugs because I believe in you. You are

amazing. xx

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

Did it. I hope I will get myself to do it every day in the weeks to come. It means a lot to me that you cared and shared with me.

[hypercat54 in reply to Starrlight]

Hi you have to start attending to your needs and you don't do that enough! Also have a look at this x

mindbodygreen.com/0-15295/h...

[Starrlight in reply to hypercat54]

I printed it out, thank you so Hypercat!

[Agora1 in reply to Starrlight]

Starrlight, we all need that little boost of character when our own thoughts

can chop away at our self esteem. xx

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

I’m so tired Agora. I can’t keep this up. I’m trying so hard but it’s feeling like it’s not enough and feel I’m loosing control. My brain feels at its limit.

[Agora1 in reply to Starrlight]

I understand all too well in how you are feeling. I remember feeling like that.

Life was so overwhelming, I was scared as to where I was going, that I might

break any moment into blackness and lose myself. Push had come to shove

and that was the moment I knew I had to do something more than just staying

stuck. I've always used analogy as a way of thinking out my life.

At that darkness time when Anxiety seemed to control every waking thought,

I thought of my mind and my life as cluttered. Just as on the show "Hoarders"

there was no longer any room for one more thing. It was time to clean out the

negative thoughts and keep only the positive ones which had gotten buried in the

corner.

Going through each negative thing in my life and putting it in a black trash bag,

If I had no use for this thought, why keep it. After days of sorting through my

life, I came upon the things that meant most to me. My positive attitude, my

positive approach to life and my positive thoughts. My mind had never been

so clear. I was actually able to breathe for the first time in a long time.

It felt so good. I had room for any new issue that would come up.

I made sure I didn't allow the negatives to take over as they once did.

Using analogy helped me go forward. I was no longer stuck in the middle, unable

to exit my painful existence. I am free once more and Life is Good xx

Starrlight, it's about never giving up and using anything and everything to get you

to the positive side of life

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so! I feel you gave a special gift that I believe I can use. I can imagine cleaning out my mind for only the positives. I can picture myself being happy focused on positives. I am imagining what it is like to feel free. 🌟

[Agora1 in reply to Starrlight]

Love to you and your positive thoughts. xx

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

🥰

[PastelPink20]

I have a hard time with it too. I’ve written a like “love letter” to myself before - listing 5 things I like about myself (or what I’ve heard ppl around me say about me, if I don’t believe it). I kind of pretend I’m writing about someone else, as if I were a friend who I’d want to say kind words with truth in.

I think it’s easy to think “I hate myself.” It’s easy to have that as an instant reaction. I have had to learn how to love myself. It takes time to build that relationship with yourself - where whenever you have those bad feelings and negative self talk, you fight it. You become a super hero, a side kick, a friend who will protect the person in need (yourself!).

“I don’t hate myself... I’m frustrated at the situation and the choices I have to make. (Or made). I love myself.” Idk.

It’s easy to see all our mistakes. To feel all the bad emotions and decide it’s all our fault. To be angry and disappointed and hopeless because it seems the problem is innate and unchangeable... that who I am is insufficient. That is not a growth perspective - it doesn’t have hope, forgiveness, or love.

I had to learn those. For me, I know that God loves me. The worth God has placed on His children doesn’t change. I can hate myself or other people because of the things they do. I can be unforgiving. I can remember what God has done for me, what He says, His love, and His forgiveness. He doesn’t change. Even though how I feel often does.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Starrlight in reply to PastelPink20]

Beautiful Pastelpink, thank you so much.

[Magicdreamer]

Very interesting question... I'm learning that the labels I put on others is actually me....so, I'm learning to undo the labels I've placed on people because it's actually about me and when I can truly love all people then that's called unconditional love... You love them just as they are without putting on labels or trying to change them. Everyone is a reflection of me in my reality so when I don't like someone, it actually has nothing to do with them and everything to do with me... So, when I learn to truly let go of all the labels, only love remains... I will judge and believe these hateful thoughts until I don't...... It's accepting what is reality. I hate until I love.... We're all doing the best we can with what we have. 💚 Nothing can be forced.

[Starrlight in reply to Magicdreamer]

Wow that’s very insightful. Thank you Magicdreamer.

[Hidden]

Remember you not only need to love yourself, you also need to not show respect for others, also yourself. Consider this if you have little confidence in yourself that can open up lack of confidence in you from others

BOB

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Very true, thanks ❤️

[BonnieSue]

Hi Starrlight,

I wonder what you like about yourself? If you start there, I think you will see it turn into love for yourself. Do you like how you care about your children? How you want to grow and improve things in yourself that need improvement in your eyes? How you fight to survive depression and anxiety? How about your art ability, do you like that? Your gift for writing? ...and I'm sure you can think of more.

Now, look at these things and maybe, just maybe, you can start to love that person whom all these things describes. Because they all add up to a pretty great kind of person, don't they? A fighter, a lover, an artist, a writer, a thinker, a nurturer. And so much more! Give it a try?

((((((Hugs)))))) , Love, and Blessings...🎏🦋💘🐬🌻🎶✏️♥︎🧚🏼‍♀️💜

[Starrlight in reply to BonnieSue]

Hi lovely! I can’t thank you enough for opening the doors for likes I may notice to turn into loving myself. Thanks for getting me started, big time, really. I’ll be thinking and practicing. I’m blessed to have you as a friend. ❤️

[BonnieSue in reply to Starrlight]

Wow! I'm so glad likes might help!🙋‍♀️ Your enthusiasm is contagious!👏🥰👍 So glad to be your friend!☺️💓🙏🌿💜

[Starrlight in reply to BonnieSue]

🥰 right backatchya!!!

[crowningglory19]

There is a difference between liking yourself and loving yourself. It might be that you don't like the decisions you've made or who you've become or what was done to you. Take time to write out what is important to you and who you want to be. Make those a priority and forgive yourself for past, start a new and improved you, fresh starts are wonderful! Every day is a New Day! <3 Take care of yourself, take a good multi vitamin and do things you love every day.

[Starrlight in reply to crowningglory19]

Crowningglory wow that is very helpful, very motivating to have a sit down and decide what is most important and what I’m shooting for now with a freshness. Thank you! 🙏 😊

[crowningglory19 in reply to Starrlight]

You are very welcome! =) Best to you! <3