I think this is happening a lot on the forum lately !

[gerrerd]

What do you think !

[Dolphin14]

I think we are all entitled to our opinions. We should try and present them with kindness.

❤️💕

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

But some are getting a bit insulting, 💗 and making things personal, and it can be hard not to respond, they forget that we are on here to help each other, no tree has branch,s foolish enough to fight among themselves. we should pull together not apart x

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

I agree with that. We are here to pull together as a community.

Remember what you have said many times, It's not about you it's about them.

❤️

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

💗💗💗

[Shnookie]

Hi mon Ami. It’s shnookie. I agree with Dolphin’s approach. However, there have been a posting or 2 where I might have been more impassioned. I’m Jewish and my father was a Holocaust survivor. Almost all of my family was slaughtered. Unfortunately in this case, the judgment did impact me and I am sensitive as being a part of a minority group and having people try to convert me that I don’t want to see it on this website. Someone once got on here and started quoting from the New Testament. I did reply to this post, that there R people of many beliefs or perhaps no beliefs at all

who post here and the point here is to be tolerant of the community members’ beliefs

[hypercat54 in reply to Shnookie]

Sorry to hear that Shnookie. I really feel for those who lost family in the holocaust and I can't imagine how that makes you feel.

It's worth pointing out that according to what admin say it's fine to discuss what helps you but not to preach at others. This is a site for anxiety and depression and not a religious or political forum per se. Their advice has always been to not answer but to just report it and let them decide.

[Shnookie in reply to hypercat54]

Thank U so much 4 that information. This only happened once. Thank U for your kind words re Holocaust and my relatives. Growing up with my family history actually has made me more empathetic toward others

[Midori in reply to Shnookie]

I understand, Schnookie. I had relatives who were in Auschwitz

Cheers, Midori

[Shnookie in reply to Midori]

So sorry 😐 that this happened to your relatives. Tho most of my family was murdered, I was so lucky that my grandparents survived with my father and aunt. If U want U can personally message me.

Hugs 🤗 S

[Midori in reply to Shnookie]

Thank you, so much, but I am fine, I get a bit emotional but it was mainly my parents generation who had the 'survivor' guilt, by being safe in Britain, finding out after the news got out. My father and Uncle were both in the Forces, Dad in the Air force, my uncle in the Royal Marines. Makes me feel odd when I realise what could have happened to them both if they had been caught.

Cheers, Midori

[Shnookie in reply to Midori]

Enjoy 😉 the rest of your day. S 😀

[fauxartist in reply to Shnookie]

Absolutely agree with you Shnookie, and my heart breaks for your family, there are no words, and we must never forget...

My family is Jewish, Catholic, non-denominational, and some who don't believe in organized religion of any kind. To be gaslighted for opposing any indoctrination isn't what this sight should be about. Nor should it be about browbeating others in any way because of their opinions, which are one thing, such as healthy discussion, But outright judgmental comments are not cool. And you can call it what you want, but it's still gaslighting to just call it an 'opinion' when it's judgmental or possibly hurtful. We all know how sensitive many of us are here. Maybe that should be taken into consideration too before...commenting. I have made mistakes over the past years too, and made amends, but it's easier said than done to just turn the other cheek sometimes.

[Sillysausage234]

Some people just log on to be agonistic it seems…..just do your thing Ray …..what’s your latest project?

[gerrerd in reply to Sillysausage234]

Caravan at the moment, Ive got a list of them should last me 10 years, hows the fish.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to gerrerd]

Good thanks but my albino sturgeon is quickly outgrowing the pond it’s about 2 ft long .

[gerrerd in reply to Sillysausage234]

They can grow to 6ft is that right.

[hypercat54]

To be honest Gerrerd I haven't really seen this. A couple of people do it a bit but nothing serious I don't think. Maybe I have missed it?

I haven't seen anything about bullying either despite claims I have seen about it.

[Roxylox in reply to hypercat54]

I honestly haven't seen very much of it either, only rare occurrences.

[fauxartist in reply to hypercat54]

You've had your stalkers my friend over the years... and I have too... You and I have seen a lot on this site when it comes to bullies. Some are just more subtle than others. And some just re-brand themselves, coming back on with a new avatar. But they can't hurt us unless we let them, but I also wish they had a delete comment button, instead we have to delete the whole post to get rid of their nonsense. I'd rather delete their rants on my post than give them any credit.

[Hidden in reply to fauxartist]

As a newbie, can you confirm something- stalkers on this site? Stalkers and bullying?

I’m trying to find positive connections which so far so good. 🙏💕😊

[fauxartist in reply to Hidden]

This is a very good place to make friends, I have been very grateful for the ones I've made here over the years, and you too will also.

It's very rare and happens few and far between that there are problems. Don't worry about it and if you ever have any problems with a member...report them to the site moderator and HU. Sometimes every once in a while someone comes along who feels they need to be the site Guru and steer the direction of the site through religious beliefs or just because they think they have all the right answers for everyone. Just take what you need from comments and posts and leave the rest. And if someone is too far off the mark...and you feel threatened or insulted...report them.

[gerrerd in reply to Hidden]

No its ok was only mild stuf

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

Don't worry Meadow, it's very rare fortunately. I have been on HU for a long time mainly on the British Lung site. I did have a troll years ago on there who followed me on here to harass me making up an endless litany of alias's to do it.

Eventually it was sent up to HU who did block him from HU permanently. But he was using a pool of IP addresses but eventually he stopped thank goodness. I had to change my name a couple of times to try and throw him off. He also trolled a few other people too and said to one he wished she would die a slow painful death!

I have also had several times replied to someone I know quite well and knew they understood what I was saying. I can be a bit too blunt sometimes, but some new person (3/4 times and different people) jumped in on my responses having a right go at me and screaming abuse. I reported it all of course, but fortunately they seem to have stayed away from me since. I also avoid them like the plague. There are a couple here now who did this but like I said I stay well away.

This type of thing will always happen on an online site but admin deal with it and hopefully give them a warning.

[Midori in reply to hypercat54]

Me too, Momo, Sometimes my posts hit a nerve and I've had a couple taken down, even my sense of humour gets me in trouble sometimes!

Cheers, midori

[hypercat54 in reply to Midori]

Yes Me too

[Roxylox]

I do think Gerrard though, outside of this forum, people's judgy comments are very much about me. I'm afraid therr is no other way of taking them up.

They are repeating false information that they believe to be true.

It is hard to ignore when my reputation is being destroyed.

It is not just thoughts in this case. Ignoring doesn't make the false rumours go away.

People on this forum, even though they have never met me get to see my true character, because l can freely post my true feelings and personality on here, as, l would hope , most people do.

I have never felt unfairly judged on here.

To repeat my main point Gerrard, other people's judgment in my everyday life is very much my concern, when it ruins my good name, thus even endangering chances of employment too.

[Blueruth in reply to Roxylox]

Cancellation culture is terrible. I think accountability is important and overdue in places. but this method is not good. I love the morning show’s fictional examination of this.

Nefarious people have seemed to figure out how to use cancel culture to target people on other things. Like they say something bad about someone and everyone just stops talking to them. That thing could be a lie but since nobody is talking to the subject they will never know. It takes more courage to get to the real story. I do think that is what one forum member is trying to do.

I’m so glad I found a company where this isn’t possible because we are all just talking proactively. Hope you find that.

[Roxylox in reply to Blueruth]

You have pinpointed my problem exactly Blueruth. Nobody talks to me about the behaviours that are falsely attributed to me. They take as truth what they hear, and like Chinese whispers the rumours get worse as they pass from person to person.

As l said to Gerrard , l have no problems on this forum. I have found it a kind source of wisdom and support.

[fauxartist]

We are all anonymous here, we all have our own stuff to deal with, and we are all the same in that way, no color, no religion, no sexual discrimination, no politics, it's why most use avatars to maintain that feeling of safety.

[Blueruth]

gerrerd your right, sorry. I do actually struggle with the throwing out of memes en mass every day with no context or your own input. It sometimes opens the door for a lot of misinformation. However my delivery may need work.

[gerrerd in reply to Blueruth]

It's ok, I know what you mean, I just pass the quotes on so people can gain something from them . Even a little quote can lift someone who is down in the dumps ,. I get a lot of people saying they help them, that's my motive to carry on posting, xxx

[Mrspjsmom]

We should all remember that words can hurt. Especially in the context of social media where you can't see expressions or body language. A good reminder for all of us in our daily lives.