Overwhelmed and Scared

[topaz1968]

I am always a fairly anxious person, but my anxiety is overwhelming right now. I have had several things happen recently that have put me over the top. My son, who is a junior in college, is going through a lot so I have been so upset over these things. It is something that happened that he is completely devastated over. A group took away something very important to him. It is a long story, but he is gutted, and so am I, over how he was treated. Recently, my mother-in-law moved here from Florida with a lot of stuff. We have been going though it and I have been helping her on my days off. I love her, but it is a lot to handle. I am working, and that has also been a bit overwhelming. I can go on, but right now, all I feel like doing is crying. Every morning I wake up wanting to cry. I have a therapist, but she is going away for a week, so I really have no one right now. I have to go to work today feeling like this. I teach adults, and it is hard to hide my emotions, but I have to. My life has always been full of ups and downs, but I feel like just when things are looking good, I get another blow. I feel like my life and my son's life can never just be good. I just want him to be happy and then I know I will be happy. I am not sure how to move forward at this point. Sorry for the long post, but I feel like I need to get it out.

[Casper2020]

I sent you a message.

[autumnmarie5]

I would love to pray for you and your son! I hope that with time things get better. If there is anything else I could do please let me know! Even if it's just someone to talk that doesn't know much, it might make you feel better. I know sometimes I would rather talk to a stranger than someone else I know because I feel less judged. Hoping things get better from here on out!

[topaz1968 in reply to autumnmarie5]

Thank you so much. I will take you up on that.

[autumnmarie5 in reply to topaz1968]

I am just a message away! I am new to this website so don't have any friends yet but I loved that I found it!

[HoldingonLou]

You are carrying alot of weight on your shoulders. It's okay to cry. Have you thought about just taking a day for yourself and do something you enjoy? It may help to write down your feelings and all you are going through. You can burn the writing in a coffee can if that would help also. We did that at a church meeting one time to let go of our pain. It was cathartic. Helpful. I will pray for you and your family.

[topaz1968 in reply to HoldingonLou]

Thanks - that is a great idea actually

[Lve2dance]

I Just joined the site today.. I'm generally a positive person.. But past year and a half is a challenge. My mom is pretty understanding until I said I want help and she said either go away somewhere take pills and get fat

[topaz1968 in reply to Lve2dance]

I am so sorry about this. Did you explain to your mom why you want to get help?

[Lve2dance in reply to topaz1968]

She can see I was a mess she is not qualified to help because she is judgemental

[AnxiousCanadianChic]

I don’t have children but I know my mom worried about us kids until the day she died. I also have friends with grown children and they worry a lot too. I think no matter what a parent will always worry and always be upset if their child is upset.

What about your husband? Does he help regarding his moms stuff? Can he maybe help her to take that off your plate?

[topaz1968 in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

Thanks My husband is helping when he can, but right now he has 2 jobs that is keeping him busy 7 days a week, so I have taken on the majority of the work. I have started to cut back and learn when I need to just leave and come home.

[topaz1968]

Thanks so much

[Els92]

Here are the links to some online resources you may find useful

Q Well

qwell.io/

Together in a Crisis

mentalhealthconcern.org/our...

Here are some apps u may find useful to download as well

SAM: Self help for anxiety

Mindfulness daily

Virtual Hope

WellMind

Thank You, Dr B

My Dr just sent me these up im sharing so they can hopefully help me myself and others with the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and low mood x

[lovetodance2018]

Thank you for sharing. It is so hard when our child goes through tough times and we feel helpless to make it better for them. One thing I really had to do to help me feel better was let go of the control. I had to pray and remind myself God is in control. There are things that happen in our life that we can't understand, however, if we focus and dwell on them it causes us mental and physical anguish. What has helped me is focusing on God and the things that are going well in my life. A gratitude journal has been a great therapeutic technique. The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself or the things going well in my life. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

[MoldyPenny]

Unfortunately I don't have any advice to give, but I feel like we're going through similar situations. I don't have children, but over the last year and a half I feel like I'm constantly being thrown a different curveball & having to navigate through that. Feeling like things can't ever just be good is very familiar to me. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk about anything.

[Kam360]

Sweetheart, you've done the right thing joining us here, we all have our issues and it really does help to vent. There is a great amount of support here. So keep in touch. Meanwhile, you need to prioritise. YOU FIRST. If you fall apart it won't help your son. It's all very well helping your Mum but see if you can leave some time for you. Be kind to yourself, go have coffee with a friend. Then you can think more clearly and organise. We are here for you. Vent when you like, we will listen. Love and hugs.😘🤗

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you. Hugs