I have three things that are going on, and I'm feeling like they are not going to end. Things are going to be this way for the rest of my life.
I know that seems irrational, but I truly believe it's true.
For example, the pandemic. There are many, many people who are saying they will never get the vaccine. This obviously means the pandemic will continue, with newer more dangerous strains emerging.
This is a scientific fact, not just an irrational thought I'm having.
I'm so tired of it. Want to see my daughter without masks. Want things to be like they used to be.
That is not going to happen. Ever.
This realization is really making me depressed.
The other two situations are similar. There is nothing I can do about them. I just need to learn to live with it all, and that makes me more depressed than I can put into words.
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I think I’m with you, CC. “The future sure ain’t what it used to be.” What’s worse, so much of it is unnecessary yet seemingly inevitable.
One of the more helpful things I’ve learned is that grief and its manifestations are the soul’s response to any loss, not just bereavement. The denial, anger, bargaining, depression, the whole multi colored emotional and spiritual bruise, there it all is when expectations and hope die. There’s a lot of denial and anger going on.
Something I heard today is that a purpose of service to others isn’t just good and true, it’s emotionally healthy. Meeting that need in front of me, today, pulls my mind out of the past it can’t change and the future it can’t control.
I agree with everything you're saying, and I appreciate your comments so much. Thank you.
I think my current situation is exasperated because I feel like I'm making the transition from both HOPING these situations are going to change, and TRYING to make them change.
Unfortunately, I'm realizing that's not possible.
So I'm trying to make the mental change from looking forward to these things being different, into: Looking at the present. Right here, right now.
I am in these situations right now. I have to be in them right now.
Tomorrow, I'll deal with tomorrow, (And there are going to be many, many tomorrows with these situations.)
It's this realization that this is permanent that I'm really struggling with.
Hi this is shnookie. Welcome to our group. We’re supportive and nonjudgmental. I understand where part of your depression is coming from. I’m here 4 U. Hugs 🤗 S
I really understand about people not having the vaccine; it's irrational, in my mind, as a retired nurse. It's slowing everything down, and I think all of us are up to our back teeth with it. The main stream media are not helping.
In UK, I have been stuck in my home for 18 months, (called shielding) for those of us with low immune systems. UK went into this lockdown on March 23rd 2020. I'm still wearing a mask in shops and confined spaces, although I am venturing out rarely, in order to boost my Vitamin D, and keep the strength in my legs.
What bugs me most is that I moved here to my home in Wales just before the lockdown, but as I can no longer drive due to failing sight, I still haven't been able to find my way around the area. Very irritating as it is a Historic area, and I'm bursting to get into the history.
I can understand you getting depressed about the situation, yet there is nothing we can do to ease it, so we need to endure a bit longer. There has been a vast upsurge in mental health referrals here in the UK, but we must consider ourselves lucky. The Spanish Flu outbreak just after WW1 killed well over 50 Million people, and there wasn't a vaccine then, and after three waves, it subsided and became one of the many 'little' flu's that go around in winter. At least we have vaccines now, and we can hope that Covid will go the same way as Spanish Flu.
I'm sorry I don't appear to have been much comfort to you, but the end Will come, we need to be patient a while longer.
Thank you Midori. Amazingly, here in the US, we've had more deaths from Covid than from the Spanish Flu. Incredible.
I also live in Texas, which is almost always #1 in new cases/day and #1 in new deaths/day. It's bad.
I'm trying to think about all three of my situations. Again, I see them as being out of my hands. There is nothing I can do about them.
So.... My option is to learn to live with them.
I'm trying to get my head around social distancing/mask wearing/avoiding crowds, etc., for the rest of my life.
I do meet my daughter occasionally. We go out to a park, wear masks, and (for the most part) stay away from each other. We're both vaccinated, so that helps.
It's a terrible situation, but I believe it's life going forward. I have to live in theses situations.
Thank you for sharing. I totally understand your concerns. There are so many things in life we have no control over and if we dwell on them or focus on them we can drive ourselves crazy. We can actually cause ourselves mental and physical anguish. What has worked for me is first leave all my concerns to God. One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 3:5 - Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lead not on your own understanding... Knowing that God is in control and knows everything brings me peace. When I take my focus off of the problems and circumstance and on God, things may not change, but I feel at peace.
I also work on finding a positive in all situations. It may not be easy but the smallest simplest thing to find makes things appear more bearable. A gratitude journal really works. The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those.
I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless
When our beautiful daughter was 14, she was diagnosed with a very rare form of colon cancer. She had numerous rounds of difficult chemotherapy, radiation, many, many surgeries. We worked with experts around the country, from clinical trials to MD Anderson hospital.
The most consistent, constant thing was thousands and thousands of people (tens, if not hundreds of thousands of people) in constant prayer for her healing.
She passed away 5 years ago.
I'm still struggling with 'the power of prayer.'
I have not lost my faith at all, but I seem to have lost my ability to pray.
😢 my daughter is in her 30s, why you and not me? This world stinks. And God? Yours is an ancient question. The path to getting back on speaking terms with a God who had the power to heal and ignored all our pleas, I believe, is honest, respectful confrontation. The Bible contains a story that can help, the book of Job. It’s much closer to a play with seven characters than an essay.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you went through. I just know God is with you now and will continue to be with you. He never said life would be easy, just that he would be with us through those tough times. Hugs
Shifting perspective is not an overnight task. Its ongoing until it takes hold. Living in the present is a goal for me too. I overwhelm myself with all I have to do, every one of them scary for me with depression. When I lift out, I will find it a little easier to cope. Hang in.
I know it's hard to understand and fear is rampant, and disabling. People are divided and anxiety is thru the roof. Breathe in deep, and trust it will get better. We can never control everyone, many do many things that are unhealthy and effect innocent around them. However, we can only control what we do and how we react. We can do our best and pray for others. Take care of you, take your vitamins and do what is right and you will be ok. Others make their own decisions, and live with it. Don't let anger stop you from love and doing what you feel is right. Breathe in peace and push away fear and anger, they are hard on health too. Take walks in the sun and let go of feelings that are not beneficial to you. It will be ok, in the end, all we can do is our best and love all.
Chino_Cherokee,my name is NattyBumpo. We're very close in age,so we've both seen a the world getting the way it is for awhile. Know that you're not alone feeling as you do. There are lots of us out there,including me for sure. Hang in there,do the best you can,that's really all any of us can do. Stay in touch,these conversations help us all. Stay strong,my friend.
Hello! I have felt this way too. If you think about the future and it’s something you can’t control and you begin to spiral with your thoughts, you could try some grounding techniques. They have really helped me. It brings you back to the present. I like to see what’s around me. I think of what I smell, what colors are around me, what anything that is near me feels like, and what I can hear. There are a lot of breathing techniques too. I hope this helps you feel better.
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