Family

[Rituals]

Define having a joke in a group.

[Rituals]

A member of my partner’s family is hurting & annoying me. Apparently it’s his sense of humour but at everyone’s expense or am I overreacting?

[Zara0123 in reply to Rituals]

You get friends like that too unfortunately. It's their fun happy bubbly personality you get attracted to then they make a joke about you and get others to laugh at you. Don't tolerate this kind of behaviour. A joke should not offend or hurt anyone, if it does it's not a joke. Some people are so sad.

[Rituals in reply to Zara0123]

You’re right. I’m starting to notice it in one of my friends that I’ve not long known. I believe she’s doing the same but not to that extent. She only does it when on our own or with our partners.

[Zara0123 in reply to Rituals]

Run from her, trust me it only gets worse. When you ignore their behaviour they don't stop

[Rituals]

He seems to get away with it. He’s tries to be funny & smart but comes over rude & insensitive. Overall he’s not a bright person, I don’t make people feel small. I’ve been told that’s his way of communication??

[Hidden]

He needs to know that he is being rude and insensitive and that it is hurting you. When someone actually hurts us, they do not get to say that they didn't. We are hurt, plain and simple.

You are not overreacting, you are genuinely hurt. He should be made aware of this, it can be done in a respectful manner.

“Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip.” ~Winston Churchill 👍

[Rituals in reply to Hidden]

Yes I need to bring those words up & make him aware. Would he even care? To me he’s arrogant. When I’ve recently mentioned it to my partner & I said I don’t like his ways I’m not going over. My partner then says well let’s just tell him. I don’t want that or the drama & people like that triggers me.

[b1b1b1 in reply to Hidden]

Great Quote. Winston Churchill really had a way with words

[Hidden in reply to b1b1b1]

Thank-you, b1b1b1. Yes, he did. 😉

[Rituals]

My partner now does. Initially he’d only seen it from his point of view & just thought I was being negative & miserable.