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So, I've been off here for a bit and would love to hear how everyone has been handling life.

Today, my husband goes for chemo, and I get to hang out with my son. I've been having pretty bad migraines recently (I think they're caused by stress). I am taking some medication for them though. Tomorrow, I get my infusion. I hate it because I have to go outside but I like it because I have to go outside (if that makes sense?).

But I'm wondering how everyone else is doing? How's your day been?

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AeonFlux profile image
AeonFlux

"I hate it because I have to go outside but I love it because I have to go outside". Ding ding ding! So relatable. Sometimes we need a reason to push ourselves from our comfort zone and then we feel happy we did.I'm dealing with extreme health anxiety. I'm breathless everyday, just waiting for lung function tests not knowing what's going on. I'm afraid it's COPD. It's hard to fight for diagnosis because I'm quite young but struggling nevertheless. But I quit smoking 7 days ago after 11 years of putting that poison in me! Now trying to stay hopeful and clean up the house, one small step at the time.

How are you dealing with anxiety? Time with your son sounds wonderful. I wish I had more time with my mum. I hope you're staying strong and the rest of your day is nice and easy x

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Kat_21 in reply to AeonFlux

Hi! I'll start by saying you gotta advocate for yourself, or maybe your parents? I know what you mean about that though. I couldn't get the doctor's to correctly diagnose me either. They acted like I was wasting their time. Until I became deathly ill. You always gotta be outspoken, but I know that's easier said than done. I still struggle with having doctor's listen because of my age.Congrats on quitting! I quit a few months ago. I still vape, but I feel so much better now that all the chemicals from cigarettes isn't in my body. I hope you continue to stay off them.

I kinda 'deal' with anxiety by distracting myself. My main distraction is videos, tv shows, etc. But I'm working to instead learn to distract myself by being more involved with my son. I love spending time with him, but it doesn't keep my mind busy enough, so I tend to overthink when I do.

I hope you continue to progress, and I'm here if you ever need a friend! Thanks for the reply.

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AeonFlux in reply to Kat_21

That's so painfully relatable. It's so heartbreaking that we only get attention when the damage is already done and we're struggling. You're right, we need to be outspoken and persistent. I used to be anxious about calling GP, now I do it first thing in the morning before even drinking water. I became so scared when I went to the hospital and saw that current healthcare is in total crisis, people sitting on the floor waiting to be seen, everyone's struggling. Very hard times. Makes me think I'll die in my 30's from untreated lung condition. And the cycle of depression continues...I imagine it's very hard for you. Worrying about your husband, then your own health, staying strong for your son. A silent hero. I really hope you have support for yourself.. Especially now when everyone is so focused on their own lives, trying to get through this period of time.

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Kat_21 in reply to AeonFlux

Yeah, the world is turning to complete crap right now. I never understood why our age makes us less important. I'm a pretty poor person (money-wise) and I always fear I will lose my insurance and not be able to get treatments. My husband actually lost his job and insurance during this diagnosis with cancer. It's hard having to worry about it. I've been coping pretty well. I sometimes get in a bad mindset but always remind myself that it can get worse.

I really hope you can find a doctor to listen to you. I was coughing up blood, in renal and heart failure and had sepsis in my body when they finally decided to listen. It's ridiculous. Like they'll only help people worth helping.

I struggle with anxiety and depression about health constantly. Keep trying! Eventually they'll get so annoyed they'll listen.

I have my husband and my family. And my little boy is my rock. Without him I really wouldn't be here, and he's been such a trooper with dealing with all this with us. He's only 2, but I swear he knows what's going on.

I truly hope you can find what you need.

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AeonFlux in reply to Kat_21

I shouldn't be surprised but this is just too overwhelming. Just the fact that money can save or kill. Really, shouldn't be surprised but wow x100. I must say, I'm really proud of you for staying strong. You'll say that you are because you have to be but still. Truly. I should learn from you. Having people that we love helps to endure almost everything and we have that treasure in our lives. Hooray for us, it's a blessing. I'll have to hug my mom today, just got a bit emotional.

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Kat_21 in reply to AeonFlux

I understand. Life is so fragile. Money truly is the key to life. I hate that I have to be on assistance to live. It's depressing. But this is sadly life. And yeah I try my hardest to be strong if only for my husband and son. I've learned that they can't see me cry. Usually the man in a relationship is the strong one but I've been assigned that. I have to be strong all the time but when I'm alone at night is when it truly hurts. Alone with my thoughts, knowing it's all a mask and I'm still only human. But we will BOTH get through this. Just gotta keep fighting. I hold my son tight. I cherish every second with him. You're strong, too. Don't let this world take that. Remember to always fight for yourself because no matter what, you are worth it. Even if no one listens.

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AeonFlux in reply to Kat_21

My heart hurts for you, I wish I could give you a hug 😞 Hold on. x

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Kat_21 in reply to AeonFlux

I wish I could give you one as well. Virtual hugs. And you're in my thoughts.

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Joeyman

I am doing ok, thank you for asking😀. Hope you guys are fine. All three of you are in our prayers.

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Kat_21 in reply to Joeyman

Thank you. I'm so happy you're doing okay. If you need a friend when things aren't okay, I'm here for you. Thank you for replying!

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AeonFlux

Thank you so much. You probably felt so relieved after finding out you're not... Well, dying! Not knowing what's going on with you is terrible.

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