Why do i blame myself for everything.

[secrets22]

No matter what goes wrong i end up blaming myself even though its not my fault,and then i end up apologising for things i hav'nt done.

This feeling has been with me all my life. Fear,anxiety,worthlessness.

[Veteran250]

It’s something I’ve always done too, I don’t like arguments, anger, stress, since I recovered as best I could from my anxiety, I have always backed down from arguments or confrontation, I doubt it will ever change?

[secrets22]

thankyou so much for your comforting words.

[Isinatra]

So insightful, M. At the risk of sounding cliche, you took the words right out of my mouth. 🤙🏼

[vishalghatul1]

it looks like the symptoms of depression. u dont need to look down on yourself.

my sister used to say to me that when you think u r the worst just look around in society. u will realize that there are many more worst things than us . no one is on top or botton .

[vishalghatul1]

there are many online therapies for depression. some of them are very helpful. best of them is called expressive therapy for depression. if anyone needs help visit the link below.

[url=" healthline.com/health/depre... Therapy For Depression [/url]

[Chair1]

Hey, sorry you feel this way, but I completely understand what it's like. I read something the other day about how sometimes this behavior is developed as a coping strategy, and can be the result of controlling parents, being bullied etc. Some sort of past trauma. I felt as a kid as though nothing I did or how I looked was good enough, and that I was responsible for making everything right, so to me this explains a lot of my behavior. Knowing that and knowing how to fix it are 2 different things tho... Hopefully for you, if you can figure out a reason why you do feel this way and how you learned to feel this way, it might help you to start identifying when and why you are doing it, and potentially make steps towards changing these thoughts when they happen. I don't pretend to be an expert by any means, but I hope that even if you rule this out as a reason, it may help someone else, and for me it was reassuring to figure out that at least that was something that wasn't my fault!!

[gilded_masquerade]

Hey, what you’re feeling is something I know all too well about, much like many other people here as well.

In my experience, these feelings and sensations are rooted from something in your younger years whether it be from trauma, your upbringing, a mental illness, etc.

Sadly it can be hard to pinpoint because there can be so many contributing factors.

It took me a long time to figure out why I feel this way until I finally figured it out which anyone who knows me personally has often replied with “well, duh” I just couldn’t see it because I was in it rather than outside of it and observing. Even then, I’m still learning.

If at all possible, seeking professional help would be your best bet BUT in the event that you can’t afford or are able to see someone, maybe take some time to think about why you may be feeling this way. Journaling always helps and is such a useful tool for things like reflection and brain dumping. Even talking to someone you trust is beneficial.

I hope that you get to the root of the problem and that you feel better soon.

Take care 🖤