Broken

[BrownEyesBlue]

He ended it because “you send too many messages” and because he wasn’t interested anymore. I’m gutted. I want to curl up in a ball and die. My last break up was abusive and horrible and this feels much worse; the same heart wrenching feeling as when my sister and mom passed. I don’t think I can survive this. He told me forever and promised me a baby. Something I’ve longed for. He said he never led me on but I feel as though I’ve been taken for a ride. And he just doesn’t seem to care. I feel hopeless. I’m so depressed and crying alllll the time. Why doesn’t anyone want me? Why am I never enough? Why am I so easy to leave and forget? I’m so tired. At this point I’m just living to die. He was so cruel to do that to me and then walk away as though I was nothing.

I’m shattered. Broken.

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Hey you will recover. You might not feel like that now, he did deal you a low blow. The hell with him!!! You don't need that kind of guy in your life. When it really comes down to it, if you did have his baby do you think he'd really be that great of a father??? I don't think so!!! There's other fish in the sea, as that stupid saying goes. I know you're really hurting now and that's understandable. Have a good cry, punch a pillow pretending it's his face, and dust yourself off and breathe. Let that fool go!!!

[detour13]

Six letters,two words,

easy to say

hard to explain,

harder to do!

Move on.

Hey you will be ok.. Good thing he did it now like Googoodllsfan fan said, what type of father would he be????

Time heals all wounds , it's going to be some hard times ahead.. I been there , it took me a couple years to get over my last love, but now we are friends.. I see her and hug her and feel nothing ... I PROMISE!!!! You will get there as well...

I'm sure your a beautiful girl inside and out and he does not deserve your love...

One positive thing is I never thought of Panic Attacks when I had a broken heart because I was thinking of her... so perhaps once you get over him you will get over your depression and anxiety!!

You can and will do it.. He's not worth the energy and pain.. Just let it run its course... have some great crys and you will survive and prevail...

[Shammom]

You are not alone. Heart ache is one of the hardest things to go through yet somehow our hearts heal with time. You will. Be patient. Taking my own advice ...I am currently there...my heart is broken. We have had recent struggles but I did not expect it to end suddenly.

Unfortunately I have been through this before. Now years later with a heavier heart. Thought I had met my person but he showed me a different ugly side. Although different circumstances, I know your pain right now. It sucks.

As much as I am sad, anxious, and scared right now I know my happiness depends on me.

Focus on you and your healing journey. I know how hard it is. You will be better in the end. We cannot let people define our happiness.

Lots of hugs to you.

[Isinatra in reply to Shammom]

All wise words ^^^^. Shammom makes a good point. Your happiness depends on yourself, not another person. Having a partner that you enjoy being with is just a small part of the puzzle that makes you whole. Depending on another person for your happiness doesn’t always work. Akin to putting all your eggs in one basket. We all want approval in a realistic way, but we need to be able to pat our own back, too. Easier said than done sometimes, I know, but it’s a good thing to think about.❤️

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

A favorite lyric:

“You expect for me to love you

When you hate yourself, my friend “

I’m not saying that you hate yourself. But you need to love yourself before others can. Try not to give anyone else the power to make you or break you. It’s down to you. That may sound harsh but it’s actually comforting. You hold the cards. You’re at the wheel. You can’t snap your fingers and feel that way but it’s so worth cultivating. You can have the hurt but know that it won’t destroy you!

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to Catsamaze]

You are so right and I needed to hear this. I love myself and I’m confident in who I am but I let people take my power. I need to stop doing that. It’s his loss.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

Yes!!!!!

[pam4him]

I am so sorry this happened to you. It will get better with time. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship. His leaving just means life has different plans for you, perhaps someone even better. Cry, scream, punch pillows, throw darts at his picture, whatever helps you feel better. Then try to start moving forward in life a little at a time. Hang in there, we are here for you. Prayers for peace, strength and guidance.