I feel helpless and hopeless

I've been trying to get my son out of my home for awhile now because of his demeanor, etc. He's 19 now and it's so hard to find him a case manager etc to handle his needs because I can't help him. I don't have the strength anymore plus case manager has more info than I but can't seem to get him 1. Most agencies don't answer their phones and many shelters etc are full. He leaves places when he does get a spot, i know some places are not good but he is gonna have to deal with it from now on. I want to pack up and leave my own place so I wouldn't be responsible anymore. Maybe if I give up my house he wouldn't leave those facilities but knowing him, he will. Pray for me.

[JkBauer]

Hello Darklovely,Absolutely, I will pray for you!

Good God in heaven, Thank you for this opportunity to come before and give you glory honor, and praise. Thank you, Jesus, for giving us the gifts of love, grace, and mercy, and much much more. Thank you for never ever giving upon us. How I want to lift up this parent and son. They are both struggling and need your help and guidance- grace and mercy both. Jesus, Please take the parents' hand and bring peace and stillness, understanding and wisdom on how to best handle this very stressful situation with the son. Jesus, I pray that you will fill this son with your conscience, encourage him to do what is right. I pray that he will take responsibility for his actions and decisions. - Let your will be done in this situation. In Jesus Precious Name, Amen

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Thanks a lot.

[ziggypiggy]

Setting up firm boundaries is difficult especially for our own children who may need some assistance. Hopefully you have a therapist or someone you can talk to to help you figure out a plan. Obviously the current situation is not helpful to either either one if you. I've known people who have become so frustrated that they eventually had to go through the eviction process to get their adult child out of the house. I'm not saying this is your path but its so hard to stand firm when their are emotions flying around for everyone. It hurts like heck in the short term to set those boundaries but it will pay off in the long run as your son will find that he's an adult now and needs to find out the extent of his own abilities to care for himself. Keep working on that social worker. Don't take no for an answer. Squeaky wheels get the grease.

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Thanks for the advice.

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Hi. How exactly does your son behave towards you??? Is he listening to some of this awful rap music or something similar??? I'm not meaning to come off as being nosy, but does he threaten you or act very disrespectful??? Sometimes I think rappers like Eminem really need to think before they speak!!!!!!