What are some things to do to boost confidence?

I have a lot of social anxiety and confidence issues. I really want to work on them but I don’t really know how to. I’m really sick of hating myself and feeling this way

[Itzallgood1]

That is a sore spot for me too. I use humor to hide my insecurity. Works for me. I guess for me I would ask how many friends do you have. Start there and have them introduce you to some others and become comfortable with them. And so on. My problem is I don't know how to keep a conversation going. Feel free to chat if you want. Would like to help if I can.

[Hidden in reply to Itzallgood1]

Honestly my sense of humour is one of biggest insecurities. I always feel like I’mNot funny enough

[Itzallgood1 in reply to Hidden]

I know I try to be but hey if it's who you are be that person. Don't worry about what others think. There's humor in everything. Ask your family what they think to see if your sense of humor is fun.

[Imaaan]

Hello fellow Canuck,

Nothing is more damaging than when we're our own worst critic. It leads to a dark tunnel of self doubt and self loathing. As you are a unique being, you can maybe acknowledge, focus and list your strengths because we all have them and share that with others. Doing things we excel at/ good in and sharing it with others can help improve how we feel about ourselves.

Also, try saying positive affirmations to yourself on a daily basis. For example, "I am worthy", "I have a lot to offer others", "I'm interesting". To help out with self esteem, maybe you can write a message on your bathroom mirror or put up a post it note that says, " I am beautiful inside and out".

Sending you positive vibes

[Starrlight]

For me, running or other exercises boosts my confidence.

[Rizo1]

Hi I feel the same. I'm worse now I'm getting older for some reason. I exercise to take my mind off stuff. I'm not a confident person. But think of something you enjoy and are good at. Do you like sports or being creative. Cooking etc . That might boost you a bit. Take care xx

[pam4him]

Insecurity can be overcome, but some insecurity can help keep us safe in potentially dangerous situations. Those who've posted before me are right about starting with small groups and then branching into larger ones. This can increase confidence. Positive affirmations also help. Post them everywhere you frequent to remind yourself "you is smart, you is kind, you is important." (Love that line from The Help, because it's true). It takes work, but if you keep at it you may look back one day and realize you've come a long way. Prayers for wisdom, guidance and peace.

[Imaaan in reply to pam4him]

I love that line and used it frequently on my friends all the time, "u iz smart, u iz kind".

[pam4him in reply to Imaaan]

So now the challenge is to use it on yourself. Post it on the bathroom mirror, car dash, etc. Keep saying it and hopefully you'll start to believe it!

[Imaaan in reply to pam4him]

I was just commenting on liking the movie lines used in the "Help". I have a healthy level of confidence already 😉 but thanks anyways.

[Isinatra in reply to pam4him]

I do the post on the mirror move. The one that I have up, my favorite affirmation, Who you are makes a difference. I got it from an AA women’s convention many years ago.❤️🏄‍♀️