Anxiety- blushing?

[Flower042]

Hello I just found out about this website yesterday and thought I would try it out to see if it helps. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression since I was in middle school I’m 24 now and honestly I feel the same as I did back then. I’ve tried many different therapists, and I do good when I go to therapy, but for some reason I get used to doing the stuff that’s supposed to be good for me and it no longer works if that makes sense. I lose interest in wanting to better myself because it’s just so exhausting.... Also I’m not sure if anyone else experiences this (I haven’t met anyone that has) I blush uncontrollably at different times it could be when I’m having a normal conversation with someone or even when I’m by myself with no one around. I’m not embarrassed but for some reason I blush. I’m a very social person, but people have made fun of me in the past for my face turning red so I recall all those past moments and I just want to hide.. which is where the depression sets in I feel like I can’t leave my bed and that I’m ashamed of myself for not being able to control my blushing. I just would like to know if any one relates, and different things you’ve found helpful.

Sorry this is so long!!

[hypercat54]

Oh dear. Well I think people tease you not to be nasty but to try and get a reaction out of you. If you can't change it then all you can do is change your reaction to it. Instead of feeling upset why not try joking and say something like 'You are just jealous coz you wish you could blush like me'. Or 'Not everyone is as good at is as I am'.

This has the effect of stopping the teasing as they will then know you accept it as part of you and nothing to be ashamed of. Some people blush and some don't but it's like anything eg if you have a big nose you will get similar comments.

In other words make what you see as a fault into a virtue. It's not easy I know but it works trust me.

[Aish_]

Honestly I didn't even know this was real. I saw this in :

In Grey's Anatomy Season 2, Episode 3, a patient is diagnosed with idiopathic craniofacial erythema.

And my heart really goes out to you. I completely understand how it would make you self-conscious and anxious. For me the only cure for those things with mental health (my idiosyncratic personality) were close friends that understood and got use to me. So they didn't react to those things. My problems are as obvious as my face turning red but I definitely understand how it could trigger a number of emotions.

Truly wishing you well.

[JohnPB]

I think that sometimes people feel awkward and do not always respond in a sensitive way. It sounds like you are an understanding person and would not draw attention to someone else who has a condition similar to yours. I got teased (bullied) as a kid because I mispronounced some words. I think I would have benefited from the assistance of a speech therapist. Kids can be very cruel, and some of them probably feel regret for the way they behaved as a kid. Have you seen a doctor regarding if you have some type of condition that results in blushing even when you are not embarrassed? Maybe there is some thing that can be done medically. Even if something cannot be done, you are still an okay person.