Loneliness

[Humphrey42]

Just feeling really lonely. This has been going on for years and I mean years. Been on now living alone for 20 years or so. Rented rooms to help for deposit on house - then bought a house 2010. So incredibly alone - days, weeks, months, years coming back to an empty house. Any list of suggestions would be helpful.

[Hb2003]

You can paint do art draw stich make scarves ect

[Hidden]

You could maybe do some charity work where you can meet people and do something worthwhile.

[Organiker]

Reach out to others. This is one medium. Just start.

[DaddysGirl21]

Hi Humphrey42, I’m new here, I just joined today. Out of all the other posts, your caught my eye because I am in the same situation. I have lived alone for more than 30 years! Several years ago, I allowed two boyfriends to live with me, at separate times of course but that was so long ago.

I’ve never had many friends and now since I’ve moved, I don’t no anybody where I live. For whatever reason it’s hard for me to make friends. It’s so weird because oftentimes I will be standing in line inside of a store and strike up the best conversations with like minded people, all the while thinking to myself, wow, we are on one accord, we’d make great friends. And once the line moves, that’s it. We say goodbye, never to meet again.

Another reason that I don’t have many friends is because everyone I knew had children or we’re married and I am not.

In answer to your questions and looking at your responses, I agree with the two people that suggested volunteering and finding a project. My only problem with that is, I feel bad/sick all the time and would not personally feel up to volunteering (although I desperately want too), and currently, I feel too depressed to start any projects,

I’m sorry if I’m not too helpful; I really wanted you to know that you’re not alone in the way that you’re feeling. I feel the same way that you do!

And if this message reaches you, I invite you to write me back anytime! You and anyone else who feels the same way or who simply just wants to chat.

I hope that things get better for you and me both!

Good Bye

[Jkm6466 in reply to DaddysGirl21]

Hi there😊 I feel the same way u do. I was in an abusive marriage for over 20 years and finally had guts to leave about 7 years ago. I had friends then but they still live there and I left..I just moved into my condo couple months ago which I'm blessed to have but I feel so alone and sad .my kids come every other Wknd but I would luv a friend to go grab. Drink or whatever...I work 60 hours a Wk and don't have much free time but I feel like a loser to have no plans ever..I gave up on dating after all my lemons so is this it at 55? Thanks for listening 💗

[Vanessa707]

Hi Humphrey, I hope you’re doing a bit better now. I think just communicating with real people is a great way to start. Just getting comfortable with that, if you have a friend or know someone you guys can meet up and go to social events like a festival , a bar, a restaurant etc. don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone! You are special Humphrey and one of a kind.