Something has piqued my interest lately. It is something that does not sit well with me. Labels. Labels we give ourselves. Labels are names and there is power in names. If you think of yourself as the fat chick that is how you will see yourself and others will see you that way too. I try to ignore the fact that I'm the fattest person in the room and prefer to be known as the Girl with the Hair. I do have gorgeous thick hair, albeit more gray than blonde and more white than gray. But it is still gorgeous.
I have a laptop. I'm using it right now. It is mine. All mine. But it is not me. And I am not the laptop. While the laptop does belong to me it is not me. It belongs to me. I own it. But we are 2 separate entities. I am not a laptop. The laptop is not me.
I have anxiety & depression. But I am neither anxiety nor depression. I simply own them. They do not define me. I am not the definition of anxiety or depression.
Google anxiety or depression and out of the thousands of things that will come up not one of them is a picture of me. Not once is my name mentioned.
Now Google me. Of all the quirky silly things that will come up not once ever does anxiety or depression show up. (please do not press criminal record on the menu) (more on that later)
Names & labels are important. There are simply too many people in this world for Thing 1 & Thing 2 to be efficient tags. But give yourself a tag that more closely defines you in a way that makes the world see you for who you really are.
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Well said Pinkie56. You are live example of not labeling yourself as a victim of anxiety and depression. There are many professional beggars for validation in this world. Simple truth is even you tell them they are none of all those labels, they will still argue to prolong their pity party. Be mindful and separate yourself from chaos. Know Thyself 🙏 and stay true to your core. Best wishes on your life journey Pinkie ❤️
I like it. You made me laugh! You know, I looked. No pictures of me either! Boy, I'd like to hold onto this thought.
Labels are for objects. Names are personal identification. Then there's all that B.S. of job labels.I also have PTSD, Depression, anxiety, agoraphobia.. But none define me. I've been told I'm a conundrum..That one I like.
We are people/ individuals first and foremost. Our names, occupations. and various disordersand diseases aren't who we are.
Not true you are not responsible for how others label you. They have no right . If you see yourself as fat it may not be how others see you those things are not connected and it’s not for us to correct others dramas either. We are human with human emotions.
Good point but I do believe that your self image begins with you. Years ago I worked with a girl Regina. She was tall, willowy, flawless skin, beautiful blonde hair and a sweet disposition. Then one day Christmas party photos were making the rounds. The usual stuff Pat kissing someone other than her boyfriend, Hans trying to be macho, Becky teetering on the edge of unconsciousness. And there was one person I did not recognize. I asked Who is this? That's Regina of course. Regina? This woman was not tall & willowy. Kinda average & a bit chubby, skin far from flawless, mousey brown hair not blonde. But she was laughing & hugging an older women from the front desk. That sweet disposition came thru loud & clear. I never looked at Regina or anyone else for that matter the same again. I love that I got to see Regina's soul & I hate that she was unmasked. I thought about this issue for years before coming to the conclusion that your eyes will lie but your soul will not. My soul met Regina's soul & loved her. I have strived ever since to be who I wanted the world to see me as.
I struggle with labels too. I don’t like most labels upon me, even good ones, as they are stressful. If someone calls me Smart, what if I say something stupid? If someone calls me Kind, what if I say something hateful? It’s a lot of pressure to live up to positive labels and avoid negative labels. I really like your thought, as nothing-but-pain said too, that not one picture in Google of Kind or Smart shows me. Neither does Stupid or Cruel. I note that you call yourself Girl with the Hair. Why not Woman with the Hair? There might be some interesting exploration opportunities here.
Well put Opp. My biggest problem with labels is that are one size fits all. Sometimes I'm a saint other days I am pure hell to sit next to. We're all like that. Did you ever see the movie Cowboys vs Aliens? (BTW its based on a real incident from the 1880's) I walked away with one line "I've seen good men do evil and evil men do good. Never judge by a single encounter. Hell, just never judge."
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I am driving people away from me and I know it.
I am a shitty person 
I don't know if anyone will care to read this
Am I being to sensitive? 
I don't know if this was a good idea...
