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I feel like I got more Agoraphobia than Anxiety itself. Gotta talk to my therapist about it this Friday.

I keep reading that in order to get rid of agoraphobia you gotta get out there and face the fear.

Just the thoughts of being out there and say “what if I start panicking in the middle of the restaurant again” makes me just wanna cuddle in my bed.

I don’t have a problem facing the fear itself

The problem is I’m a Couch Potato, So lazy to even go out lol 😴

I’ve been a lazy person since birth. I enjoy my sleep . Hehe

Hope you all had a good weekend ♥️

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hypercat54

Don't think too far ahead and learn to walk again before you run. Don't out to a restaurant yet but first practise going outside for a few yards. Then build up from there. Your agoraphobia will only get worse unless you try nipping it in the bud soon.

It's not a matter of being lazy but of never being able to work, travel, or have any sort of a normal life. And it would also depend on being able to be dependant on someone else for the rest of your life. Take baby steps and go from there.

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alfreddy7 in reply to hypercat54

Step by step and baby steps. Try not to chew more than you can bite. thank you hypercat :)

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florapeace

This is something I deal with sometimes too! I have periods where I'm good to go and I'll go outside quite often, but then something happens that triggers the fear again. It's a vicious cycle. The good thing is I really do appreciate the time that I do get to spend outside and it definitely helps with those periods where I feel like a shut-in.

I am kind of in the same boat as you, as I never really want to get up and go outside... but I do feel that nasty, left-out, recluse feeling when I spend too much time inside... good luck OP!

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alfreddy7 in reply to florapeace

I’ll try flora. That vicious cycle has to be broken

Thank you for your advice :)

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LiveandLetLive42

I completely understand!! I was agoraphobic for a long time. What helped me, is that we moved back to my hometown where I felt more comfortable. And we're also now close to my parents house. I feel better about going out here because it's where I grew up. I am a HUGE couch potato too though. I love my little bubble and I love sleep. But, it's still important to get out sometimes. We go for short walks, local restaurants once or twice a week, my parents' house and I work from home most days. Agoraphobia is REAL though. It is no joke. People often mistake it for laziness but it is far from. It's a disease. But, with small steps you can do it!

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alfreddy7 in reply to LiveandLetLive42

Baby steps. Got it. Than you for your input :)

Well then Alfred u don't have too worry too much bcz u will be hugging ur pillow as u are sitting there. Hope all goes well on Friday

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Hi zoom :)

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Hi my friend... Haven't been here much lately... Hope all is well👍👍

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Agora1

Hi alfreddy7, For 5 years I never left my home. Couldn't even peek my head out the door to reach for the mail. Shades drawn, never saw the light of day. My doctor and/or nurses

came to me. Therapists came to me. Lab techs, ultrasound all done in my home.

Shopping done over internet. At first I thought I had it made in that I'd never have to leave

my safety zone, my home again.

That was until I realized I was just as scared in my home as I was in going outside.

That is when I researched and studied everything I could get my hands on. Therapy became

became necessary multiple times a week by phone. The therapist became my lifeline. I had

finally had enough of this existence.

We each need to find what works best for us starting with the root of this fear. So overwhelming, so powerful that it went from anxiety to Agoraphobia.

Those 5 years were a learning experience and a big step forward in my life. Starting with

baby steps assured me that getting out was not going to hurt me in any way. First few times

I drove, I had my therapist on speaker phone. Nothing happened to me.. I could do this alone.

I could go on and on. I will support you as will the others on the forum until one day you will

be supporting the next agoraphobic asking for help :) xx It will happen.

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