How do you handle your fears? Do they hold you back? Il

[Caseopia]

A year ago I was homeless. I rented a room in desperation. It's had its pros but many cons. I've been searching for my own place and after almost 2 months of waiting after applying to a low income apartment, I just found out I'm approved! I'm happy but I'm scared. I'm scared because I'm scared to live alone since my near death experience the other night. My room mate saved me after the accident. And now I feel I owe it to my room mate/land lord to stay after saving my life. What if I lived alone? I wouldn't have survived. But I can't let fear hold me back. I've worked too hard to get this apartment. I need independence again. I'm just so full of fear. How do others handle their fears?

[Dolphin14]

I'm happy for you that you got word about your new place.

I have learned through lots of therapy that I can't let my overthinking take over. I would have to keep telling myself I'm ok now and I'm safe

Your trauma is brand new. Please give yourself time to work through this.

I hope you don't let your new place go. I can see why you are confused and scared.

❤️🐬

[Caseopia in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I can't let this apartment go. I will use my tools I learned to fight through my fears. Thank you Dolphin14

[Dolphin14 in reply to Caseopia]

Good work. That's the only thing we can do is put our tools to work.

I'm glad you will take your apartment

[Hidden]

I don't really handle my fears i avoid things, haven't flown in over 30 years, i do a spider patrol every night, I am scared of social interaction so i avoid people and when i do have to socialise i load up with alcohol

[Caseopia in reply to Hidden]

I live in fear of many things every day. I have had those around me upset about how I feel things because my fears hold me back in life. I understand. I quit school years ago from social phobia. 17 years later, I just went back this past fall. It was so hard and challenging but I did it. I used to drink to calm down if in a social setting. It was ruining my life. I couldn't grow and try to face my fears while drinking. The drinking made it worse. I live in fear every day but I try to get out of my comfort zone and try again. It may cause a panic attack but with practice I can get better. I hope you can find some peace. Living in fear is so hard. My biggest fears are fire and death. I just faced a near death experience the other night and the fear of death is in my face but I'm trying to work through it. I can't let it destroy me or hold me back. I really hope you can find some sunshine and peace.

[Hidden]

It is nice you feel a sense of appreciation to your Landlord/ roommate. But it is important to be able to progress in life. I am sure your roommate will be happy to see you take this important step in life. And it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t be a friend to this person. Strong attachment to a person can actually hold us back from moving forward in a natural and healthy way in life. And the sooner you have your own place the easier it will be to tackle this issue of worrying about living alone. Also, please know we are here for you. Not sure if this makes sense but I have had similar issues in life and I have always done well pushing myself a bit into situations I get worried about. I is a healthy learning opportunity. Take care my friend.

[Caseopia in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I need to take care of me and move forward to my own place. Thank you for your words.