Irrational fears and controlling thoughts

[Kevin160]

Hey everyone , since joining this website i came to so many new realizations , as much as i hate being this weak sometimes and hating to suffer all this panic and anxiety, it makes me weirdly positive sometimes that “well atleast this is a learning experience” ...eventhough sometimes i feel like this is so difficult to overcome but other times it seems easy , i just wanted to ask people who might have faced problems like me , my irrational fear is that although im young and physically healthy , that anxiety wont stop and i will have a heart attack and suffer and never get beter , and although my problems are relatively smaller than others here and anxiety is my main problem , i want some advices on being able to control my thoughts , and not stressing iver stress itself , because currently i dont have other major problems that should cause anxiety but im just worried about the next panic attack , and constant stress and feeling horrible i just wish that things would go back the way they were ;(

[Cookie101]

Hi Kevin160, I know that everyone has different ways of coping with anxiety. For me, although I don't consider myself a Buddhist, I do find that many of the practices are really beneficial. When my anxiety is screaming in my head for example, chanting meditations give me something to focus on and it helps settle it down because the chant takes up my attention.

[Kevin160 in reply to Cookie101]

Im actually trying meditation and im finding that it does calm my thoughts and anxity sometimes , but i mean sometimes i get panic attacks in loud places or at social events which i never had before , i was a very open person , i was awkward but like at some point i sed to socialize well , but i feel like im back to where i was in the past. I think the worse part is when you remember the anxiety and like get some panic out of it , like i sit sometimes doing and fine then i remember something scary and my heart drops , i feel just as when i used to feel starting a panic attack and get this rush of thoughts and panic and i just feel so paralyzed that i cant move or do anything its so scary and u feel like u cant even distract urself its always in your head until it stops being as scary , but it doesnt seem to go away because there is always something that reminds you of fer when you try to cope with stress and move on more or something

[Agora1 in reply to Kevin160]

Kevin I'm glad to hear you are trying meditation. With practice

and frequency, it can bring your anxiety down both in your thoughts

and body.

Here is just one of the meditations I find extremely calming when over

whelmed with negative thinking (or in cases of a panic attack)

You Tube....

"How to Calm Down during a Panic Attack" by BuzzFeed Video.

Wishing you Peace & Calm xx

[Kevin160 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much , i will go watch it , your support is so comforting

[Binx18]

I wish I had helpful advice, but mostly just commiseration. I have high blood pressure, which is has been hard to control while also battling anxiety, so I have the same fears. I take medication for both which helps, but I get into cycles of overthinking and scaring myself that I'm going to worry myself into a panic attack which will lead to a stroke. It's scary, so i understand what you're feeling. I use grounding techniques when I start to feel the wave of anxiety and have some go-to distractions, and it can help. Best of luck to you.

[Kevin160 in reply to Binx18]

Thank you , you just described my worst fear , but i dont have high bp and i should be able to convince myself that regardless of anything i will be fine , but high bp runs in my family which also scares me and flashbacks of my mom suffering high bp problems and a few times being hospitalized for it haunts me and doesnt make it easy to face my problems , but thanks for letting me realize im not alone in this , i always thought my fear is dumb and that im going crazy over this

[Binx18 in reply to Kevin160]

It's definitely not dumb and you're not alone. Like you said, you can usually convince yourself that you'll be ok, which is good, but I know there's always that little anxious voice saying, what if you're wrong. Try not to listen to that voice. High bp runs in my family as well, and I considered myself much too young to have this issue. But knowing it's there is scary. Try to take care of yourself.

[Kevin160 in reply to Binx18]

That really relates to me , that im too young for the problem but it still scares me and stress doesnt make it easy because stress easily elevates bp , and i just get these irrational fears that what if my bp keeps elevating and then i start getting heart disease , its really scary but my fear is that i only need to control my fears but im worried i cant ..because controlling thoughts and fears that are overwhelming is very difficult but i try my best to do that but sometimes it just doesnt