A little advice? Why am I so stuck being unhappy?

[BKLYNr]

Why do I feel everyone around me is maturing and progressing with life, career, and relationships while a feel stuck and the only thing moving along is my age?

[Sprinkle1]

I think it happens to most of us, we are on our roads to maturity, which is not easy, it is often easy to look at others and wish were were in our time and space where they are. Bet if you talked to them they would tell you they to have problems. If you do not love yourself, learn how, this will give you strength and confidence. Set out a goal plan, where you want to be in 1 year, a goal plan for where you want to be in 5 years, take your time and work on them, be prepared for set backs, and some wonderful moments when you grow and gain. Life is not easy, A great book that helped me 30 years ago which I recommend often, "The Road Less Traveled", by Dr. Scott Peck, I know Amazon has it new and used. It was in the top 10 best seller list for 7 years. I still use lessons I gained from that book today. Buddha said "Life is difficult, until we transcend it" It took me 2 decades to get to that wonder place in my life. I wish you well, read uplifting books, Leo Buscaglia is wonderful, also Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer.Do not give up on yourself, you have more strength than you know you do, try it out. I wish you well, sending love n hug......Sprinkle 1.....

[Agora1 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Excellent book choices

How are you Sprinkle1 xx

[JohnPB]

Sounds like all areas of your life are not progressing like you wish. Perhaps setting and working toward achieving some small goals might be helpful. I often feel like I cannot get my act together and do more of the things I need to get done.

[Gentlespirit]

Are you punishing yourself or is society punishing you. Convincing yourself and believing what they say? Giving up and giving in? Experiences and environment does have an effect and biochemistry biology genetics they all play a part in affecting u.

[Gentlespirit]

Your life is important. Give yourself a chance. Forgive yourself.

[Gentlespirit]

I am tired sometimes from the deepest part of my soul. A part of me not wanting to talk or explain and carrying hurt from being misunderstood. Depression guilt shame . I think of my daughter and son and others who care. Don't give up. Walk on plod on limp on yet get on get going you can do it. Just do what you can. Keep trying. I'm tired and in pain. Ok rest. Then do something for your mental emotional and physical health. Take care

[Dubba61]

I think a lot of that is an illusion. What with bright, happy, social media/ t.v types. We don't really know what goes on inside. Yes Deepak Chopra, The Dalhi Lama, and the many Mantra's on Happiness and Healing are a something I find a big help.

[endofheartache1290]

Well there could be several reasons. Sometimes we do what we like but end up comparing ourselves to others or what society wants and that makes us feel unhappy because we don't have those things. If you are happy with your career and friendships don't let others or society dictate that you shouldn't be. The other side of the coin is not being fulfilled or having meaning. Most people try to strive for happiness but the truth is happiness is just a buzz word that can mean many things. It can mean being drunk or eating a big dinner. So you should be striving to find fulfillment in your life. And it sounds like this is more of your struggle. If that is the case then work towards things you love. things that are meaningful to you. If you want deeper relationships seek them. Reach out to friends and family. Really start that process of developing closeness. It's a process. it takes time. The biggest things about friendships is that it's two ways. So you need to be there for them just as much as they should be there for you, within reason of course. If your job is not providing fulfillment perhaps it's time to seek out something else. Or maybe you could move to a new company in the same field. A small shakeup can do wonders. Really pursue the things that you find meaningful. That is how you will find your happiness. Be kind to yourself and be compassionate with yourself. Remember that we all move at different speeds so do what you can and only compare yourself to who you were yesterday not who others are today. And the final piece of advice I can give is to express more gratitude. I don't mean to say that you are not appreciative of what you have. But sometimes we forget what is going on right in front of us. We are so focused on the future and what will be that we forget that we exist right now. So take time to express your gratitude for things that you are grateful for now. That will also help you stay in the moment and add meaning to your life.

[Rafiki11]

Were you affected by trauma?