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Surrender to your existence! ❤️☀️☮️☯️🌸🌈🧘🏻‍♀️🕉🙏


According to Scientific America, it’s natural for humans to care what other people think of them. But if you’re caring too much and you’re adjusting your life according to other people’s expectations, you will live a life of suffering. Whenever you are self-conscious, you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. When you are self-conscious, you are in trouble that shows symptoms that you don’t know who you are. Your very self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home yet.

First, a person who has a strong need to identify with something because they haven’t looked inside. They don’t know themselves, who they are, and therefore they cling on to external factors in order to define themselves. Without external identification, they would be lost. The problem is that any disturbance in the external world can cause internal turmoil. Second, if you have a strong sense of “I am this”, your ego will get hurt in case somebody tells you otherwise. Why on earth would you get offended or have negative emotions when somebody says that you are stupid? It is the ego, believing that it is in fact not stupid and desperately wanting everyone else to recognize that. Similarly, if your ego believes that you are a failure and somebody compliments you, you will get defensive. If there was no ego, if you managed to get rid of it, you would have no emotional reaction to any of this. That doesn’t mean being arrogant. If somebody tells you that you are stupid — who knows, maybe they’re right! Maybe you have really done something silly. It is alright to consciously and rationally engage with that idea, think about it. But there is no need to get identified or get hurt. Third, it is the worst consequence of ego if your ego has a sense of who you are, you might actually identify with it so much that you become exactly that. All identifications are useless, but the negative ones are perhaps the most harmful. If you believe that you are a failure, you will eventually behave in your everyday life as if you really were a failure. You will react to situations in a certain manner, you will not seek out opportunities, you will be anxious, you will radiate a certain energy around you. Eventually, even if nobody in their core can be a failure, you will create such environment where your illusion will be indistinguishable from reality.

To drop your ego fully, you need to stop dropping it and that the ultimate method to drop the ego completely is non-doing. Even if you’re on the spiritual path, if you work on yourself and you manage to dissolve a large part of your identifications, there is a good chance that through all these actions you’re still feeding your ego. You cannot actively get rid of your ego because whatever you do will establish a sense of identity, however noble or spiritual that identity is. The only way to become established in yourself is through the practise of yoga, through enhancing your awareness and meditation.An egoless state is a state where you are emotionally indifferent, where praise doesn’t excite joy and criticism doesn’t hurt you. The initial stage of dissolving your ego is to turn in and destroy your identifications with any external factors and characteristics. But in order to get rid of your ego completely, you will need to go a step further — you need to surrender.❤️

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I like it thank you for reminding me 😄

You’re welcomed my little 👼. And for all of us to check ourselves from time to time 🤣😂❤️

Yes definitely 😄

Very good KoKo and thank you🙏🙏💜💜💜 xxx

You’re welcomed Alicia. As always you are the examples how to live life fully and positively for all of us 🥰🥰🥰🌈🌈🌈🙏xxx

Aww thank you KoKo, that's so lovely of you to say.💜💜🥰🥰🥰🌈🌈🌞🌞 xxx

When it’s true it’s a piece of cake to say it out loud 🥰🥰🥰🌹🌻☀️☀️🌈🌈xxx

It's very good to say things out loud, it works well 💜💜💜🌈🥰 xxx

That’s true Alicia. Hope you have a good night and sweet dreams 😇🌈❤️❤️❤️🙏xxx

Thank you KoKo💜💜💜 xxx

We need to stop believing about what people say we have to ignore those hurtful words because if we don’t than we believe it .

Exactly Hiba. And the whole point is we need to surrender to a non-doing state.

Exactly 😄

Love this new profile pic, my Hiba is so cute. Shine bright like a Diamond 💎 ❤️❤️❤️

aww ❤️❤️❤️

How does it feel eating food now? I see mommy prob has to cook more that you have a new grill now 🤣😂😂😂

🤣🤣 it’s weird but it’s good I can eat hard stuff now 🤣❤️ just have to slice apples ❤️

Slow down tiger 🤣🤣🤣 don’t wanna do too much first day or you’re gonna jack them up 😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am eating pizza 🤣🤣

Omgggg I’m still on my 2nd cup of coffee and you got apple n pizza 🤣🤣😂😂

🤣🤣 I got only pizza

😅😅😅 let’s try some steaks tonight 😂🤣👍

🤣🤣🤣 delicious 😋

I bet it’s a feast for a lion like yourself Hiba with beams n all coming out of the hoohah 😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣 oh my gosh I can’t breathhh 🤣

With the new Colgate smile, who cares breathing? Just flash those smiles 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂❤️

🤣🤣🤣 😄❤️

I’m back I got my fish tacos Tuesday treat today 😋😂😂❤️



Oh ya love my local taco spot, they grill the fish so good 😋😋😋

Now i want it 🤣😄☺️.

Wish I’m in Maui now, best mahi mahi tacos ever 😋🤣👍❤️

🤣🤣 what spices do they use?

U don’t need spice if the fish is fresh. U can add salsa on top will make it fantastic 😋👍

Mmm 😋

The best one is u get to go fishing n sashimi style right there with some sake. 😉😋👍

I love fish ❤️ 🤣🤣 me will pass the sake i will put soy sauce 😋

Hahha soysauce is just sodium. Just wrap the fish filet with some sliced gingers will make it fantastic 😋🤣❤️

Hmm ginger is so spicy 🥵

😂😂😂I love ginger. I can have ginger everyday in everything. What not to love?! 🤣🤣👍❤️

What ?🤣🤣 how 🤣

Let’s see in tea, smoothies, salad, candies, many dishes.... 🤣🤣😂😂

I do drink ginger tea before i sleep but ginger shots would be good for the stomach

That’s why they always include with sashimi and it gives a good kick to the fish flavor 😋

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

Agreed hiba looking as beautiful as always!!

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Oh yes Ofc Hiba has been starring in front of the mirror the whole time today 😂😂😂❤️

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

as she should! pop off sis ❤️😘

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Hiba’s been having good mood all day. U know making posts away 🤣😂❤️

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

shes sharing her good vibes with the world. I think everyone deserves a hiba in their life 😂😀

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Oh she’s been earful with Koko lately to be honest 😅😂😂. She deserves a vacation 🤣😂❤️

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

for sure ! we should plan one for her! 😜

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Yes a virtual vacation and we will bring tropical theme in 🌴🐠🍍🍹🏝🏖🦜🌺

Thank you for this. What happened to the apocalypse one? I clicked and didn't pull up.

You’re welcomed. It was apocalypse night 😂😂😂no more 🤣🤣🤣. Do you want a link to the song?

Lol. Sure....

I like this version...Live ❤️

He's got a good voice


When we live in that false center than we become a slave to others opinions. Everyone has so many opinions and they change all the time it will be too much to handle. You will be miserable...When we find that egoless center, we gain our dignity and self respect. We dont bother with what the other thinks. It's none of our business. Thanks for posting🙏🙂❤☯️

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

What touched most for me is we are so burden of being respectable and that is a false center state because it just painting the ego. It sure will satisfy everyone else but your own self. 🤗🌈🙏

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

Yes, you always have to be polite to others when you're living in the false center. It's not genuine and its exhausting.

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

It’s just exhausting. Just burn out in the end. Always bring it back to balance to your core of existence. Be diplomatic when needed.

Fascinating!, but not sure if I could surrender the ego. I also feel that I haven't got the patience for mindfulness. As I've often posted here, I regularly get deeply hurt by people's nasty comments.

Hb2003 in reply to Roxylox

Same here ❤️

Roxylox in reply to Hb2003

You certainly don't deserve such comments Hiba, you are such a kind and helpful person

Hb2003 in reply to Roxylox

Thank you you are too ❤️

If you don’t surrender and feed your ego then you will be in same vicious cycle. When we are subject to public opinions I.e. making posts, we have to practice mindfulness and know thyself. If people left nasty comments on your posts whether it’s true or not, you have a choice to have a comeback with the same intensity without anger. It can be fun 🤣😂

Hmm what are some good comebacks 😄🤣🤣

Daz when u pm Koko and u will get the antidote 🤣😂👍

Please do 😄

Always 👊🤣😂

Fun perhaps, but it also might be a time to reflect on how to use your life energy in a manner which will have a positive impact.

Have you ever seen two or more go at it on a forum as though they are dueling and watch as the ego investment goes up with each cycle? Sometimes it seems endless and possibly, pointless.

Personally, I discovered that genuinely disengaging without the ego is quite freeing. I do wish for you true peace.

It’s true ☝️ I’ve seen two or more idiots went at it many many times in this forum and I have never been part of it 🤣🤣🤣 I love not intellectual but intelligent come back to get some enlightenment for myself ❤️ I don’t control life energy but let it flow where it counts 😉🙃. Have a good day 🙏

Sorry, Greatmindfulness, you misunderstood my post. What I was saying was that I regularly post here about the nasty comments I often overheard people in my actual neighbourhood where I live making about me, even though many of them don't know me well at all, referring to me as someone very odd, when I'm just pretty shy and a little awkward. Thankfully I have never gotten any nasty comments on HU, only support and kindness.

Hi Roxylox, so it is your neighbors, same concept with whether they are HU comments (not in your case). I’m glad you found great support here 🤗


Wonderful post! as always making us reflection. 😘🤗

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Aweeee thank you sweetie. How have you been? We miss you. Golden girls and boy miss you. 🤗😘

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

I been everywhere to be honest and I miss u all too ill try to male more time for you guys like you guys have helped me so much !!❤️🧡💛

GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Aweeee, I’m glad you’ve been everywhere as we’ve been locked down enough already 😅. You have so much bright spirit that you are a great addition to our golden group. We miss you dearly and can’t wait for future virtual parties 🤗❤️❤️❤️🥳🎉🎈

Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

yes I need a virtual party for sure! ❤️

K - "you had me at - according to scientific american..." !!!!!

omg nothin sexier than a woman quoting scientific american!!!!


PS: that's not sexist - if i were gay, and GMF a guy - i'd say exact same thing!

i'm objectifying science - not people ;-) (i don't think science will mind)

Aweee Rob u just said the right thing tonight 🤣😂🤣😂❤️❤️❤️. Always include a P.S. which is the most important point of this reply ☝️😂😂😂

tx K! i'm so glad i hit the right spot... i needed that too... <3 <3

You’re welcomed Rob. Much love n support. 🌞🌈☮️🙏

That's very aptly put. The ego is in control whether we realize it or not, and we are transfixed in our minds most of the day. Polarizing emotions are transient, and they will always come back to an equilibrium. Coming into the present is key, as the only constant in nature is inconstancy.

Great interpretation Kainan_li. Have a wonderful day ahead ☀️🌈🙏

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