Social anxiety

[Jamescrider]

So i think pretty much all my life i had SA I've kinda been the "shy" one but i always had a problem with talking to people and on the phone also its like i analyze myself during the conversation i think of the worst like, Is they gonna think im stupid, im i ugly, do my voice sounds terrible or they could say something i don't know how to answer its truly a mental war and its not easy im trying my best to help it but idk how😭😥

[Hb2003]

I am sometimes super self conscious the best way i got over it is by talking to people more and more it also helped with my social anxiety,

[Jamescrider in reply to Hb2003]

Ima try my best to do that 😊

[Hb2003 in reply to Jamescrider]

Take deep breaths before you talk it helps also ☺️

[Jamescrider in reply to Hb2003]

Ok thank you for replying😊😊

[Hb2003 in reply to Jamescrider]

Your welcome 😄

[hypercat54 in reply to Jamescrider]

Understand they aren't thinking about you at all as most people are much too busy worrying about themselves! The answer is to try and concentrate on the other person and make talking to you a pleasant event. If in doubt ask them about themselves as everyone loves talking about that.

[Jamescrider in reply to hypercat54]

That sounds so right and makes sense ima try it out

[hypercat54 in reply to Jamescrider]

Good. It will feel difficult at first but don't give up as that is the way to go. If you think about the other person instead of yourself it's much easier in the end.

[Jamescrider in reply to hypercat54]

I appreciate your comment alot 😊😊

[bonkers65]

I feel the same way. And I always start over-thinking after we've talked with things like Did I say the right thing, did I sound stupid, did I offend them, etc.

[Hb2003 in reply to bonkers65]

Same I always apologize when I don’t need to always ask if I offended them

[Jamescrider in reply to bonkers65]

Yess this is so accurate!!

[Hidden]

I get you heh,

I am also a shy one but buble at the same time it just doesn't make sense. But what I have learnt is that when starting conversations, you will have to concentrate on what interest them and just relax yourself and just flow with them and concentrate on them and believe me an opportunity will present itself where you will start mixing yourself in the conversation. After that the conversation will build up. All you have to do is just relax while doing it. I know it gonner b hard at first but you will have to force your mind to just tell urself that there is nothing wrong with you and with what you are doing. Some of us are born like that but in the world only the fittest survive, I know you will be alright

[Jamescrider in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your time to reply on my post it means alot to me and im willing to do everything each of you say to help my problems 😊 its really just a mental war but im getting through it

[Hidden in reply to Jamescrider]

Hah u will be fine. Being interested in what interested them made me know what to talk about, the rest was history... U wi b fine

[swordfishll]

Me too! Only recently I’m more comfortable. I think the reason is because I have therapy over the phone, so now I’m used to talking and talking and talking 🙂if you practice you will find it easier

[Jamescrider in reply to swordfishll]

Yea Thats one of my weakness im trying so hard to work on

[Hidden]

You know what sounds the most difficult about this to me, is that it sounds like you get trapped in a spiral of feeling insecure. Once that whirlpool pulls you down its so, so so hard to get back out and remind yourself that you get to decide if you're smart, attractive, worthy. Thats all you, son! You are the king in your life, you get to make all the choices. Keep your chin up

[Jamescrider in reply to Hidden]

I never heard someone tell me this before i appreciate this alot all around smiles for the rest of the day !!😊😊

[Hidden in reply to Jamescrider]

Nice! You deserve it. 👌

[sociallyawksadface]

I always sound so robotic. And when people ask me questions I answer “yes”, “no”, “thank you” “okay” I’m literally a robot.