Help With Son's Social Anxiety

Hi Autodesk, this must be tough for him and for you to see him struggling. Have you thought of therapy? You might want to check this option to know where does he stand in the anxiety scale and what kind of treatment will work best for him. There is an app called headspace; it might be useful for him.

I hope he gets better.

the best thing you can do is to be supportive, empathetic and let him know you love him and suggest he get help. learning about anxiety and having him

see a doctor would help him greatly.

Hi he needed to do something that can have busy in his mind do walking or running or meditation or yoga.embrace himself and comfort him and also medatition is really good in our mind or read books get some 20 walks fresh air is good.

Hi. I am so sorry to hear both you and your son are having to deal with this. I can relate to your situation as I live with anxiety and can suffer from bouts of depression, and my son has ocd and anxiety which he accommodates and it stops him from living a more normal life.. It's difficult enough living with these conditions ourselves, but as a parent it is heartbreaking to see our children suffer...

From my own experiences I do understand what it is like and can empathise with my son. But seeing that he hasnt been able to do things because of his mental health problems, out of worry for him I've often panicked and been overly encouraging,suggesting for him to do social activities when he must not have felt he was ready and able to. This would frustrate, anger or upset him. I have also done the same in asking him to get Doctor or counselling help. None of which has ever achieved anything but to cause an episode of increased anxiety and upset for us both...

Learning from this, but still desperately wanting my son to be helped, I have taken a different ' easy going' approach. I have drip-fed every so often in a casual manner, about him going to see the Doctor 'because he'd feel better' and 'everyone has mental health issues it's nothing to be embarrassed about'.. I've found mental health charity sites with teenage forums upto age 25, and Facebook groups which I've written in a list and just said 'they look good, have a look' and left it at that, quickly changing the subject.. With love and support every step of the way, always letting him know he can talk to me anytime, but without the pressure, it has all got easier... We can now enjoy watching a film, having a chat and a laugh together. A day out without him being fearful and anxious would not have been possible a few years ago.. My son hasn't been for help, but he is willing to look at forms of help online, and I believe him visiting the Doctor to 'chat about it' is now imminent..

My son suffers flare ups of ocd and there are difficult times, but on the whole things have got much easier..There is no time limit you can put on these conditions, so no point in putting yourselves under pressure which only adds to the strain and stress. Its likely to be a continuing process of learning and managing of symptoms to keep them under control.. Focus on the good and not the bad, with every better day lived and enjoyed in the moment. Try not to worry or focus on the problems. Distractions, fresh air, exercise etc, all help to take each day at a time until it gets easier, and better.

Remember to look after yourself and perhaps speak to your Doctor about the affect this is having on your own health, and also if you should become increasingly concerned about your sons drug use. They should be able to help and direct you to other services. There is also local carers groups you can attend for support.

anxietyuk.org

mentalhealth.org.uk

youngminds.org.uk

rethink.org

I wish you and your son all the very best xx

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I have found joining the Toastmasters very helpful. It’s everywhere and it’s inexpensive. 💐❤️🇺🇸

@Autodesk Trying to encourage and support young adult children is very challenging! I have an adult son who struggles with depression and medicating himself to relieve his symptoms. He has also lost friends or opportunities because of his actions. Although it's heartbreaking, I have to believe that facing some consequences for his choices and actions (that he does have some control over) is helpful in the long run. Allowing my son to face some natural consequences is HARD!!!! It seems like your son is living at home? Are you paying his bills? One thing we did for our son is to ask him to actively participate in his own health and go to counseling and the doctor to get help. Since we support him, we told him that we are investing in him with the plan to make him successfully independent one day. So, that means he has to also “work” towards this goal with a job, school and figuring out his health (things that you feel are important). We also told him that living at home meant that he couldn’t self-medicate to solve his problems. We love him and want what is best and sometimes that looks like we are mean, but it’s tough love. I agree that you should consider behavioral therapy (counseling) and potentially a psychiatrist for beneficial medication.

I would highly suggest you read a book about creating healthy boundaries. I can find you a link to a good one if you need a suggestion. Also, I know that going to a counselor myself helped me talk through what was reasonable to expect of my son. I was too wrapped up in my feelings of loving him and wanting him to get better that I couldn’t see that I was enabling him in some ways. It seems as though going to a counselor yourself would be a wise woman to help you! I am a woman of faith in God, so I pray for him often and try to encourage him that along with these other healthy things he needs true HOPE.

Be strong, momma!

Has anyone ever used Buspar to help with their anxiety? My friend uses it and said that it works wonders for her. Supposedly better then Xanax. Anybody?