Social phobia (anxiety)

[Taylormidnights]

I have had such a bad social phobia anxiety I have trust issues with people. I feel liklike everyone is out to get me isis it trtrue are there reareally good sasafesasafe people

[Agora1]

Hi Mileyattention, it is more than true that there are a lot of good honest people

out there. We must open our minds to a more positive role in order to find them.

Please go to YouTube and take a quick listen to this video that I believe will help you.

"How to Deal with Trust Issues" by Psych2go.net. xx

[Taylormidnights in reply to Agora1]

I will check it out

[just_keep_swimming]

I understand I have social anxiety as well and trust issues . I do believe there are safe place and kind people but knowing those safe places and trusting people is hard.

[Taylormidnights in reply to just_keep_swimming]

Thats what I am struggling sasafe places safe people

[Frankie24]

I went through this during my younger years. I won’t get specific as I don’t want to add to your list of specific phobias. Safe to say you are not alone. You need to try to get professional help if possible. OCD and any mental health issues are hard to work out on your own. The world seems to be so crazy these days but there really are good decent people out there that are looking to help and not hurt or take advantage of you.

[Taylormidnights in reply to Frankie24]

I am

[littlefreak1]

hi Mileyattention, i totally understand what you're saying. when i was just a child in elementary school i was bullied for many years by my classmates and this terrible experience has had since then a negative impact on my life. i don't trust people so easily because i'm always afraid that they might turn their backs on me, and even when i do i don't feel perfectly comfortable in open myself up to the other person...so yes i can say that i have trust issues too. however i've recently come to the conlusion that if i don't start trusting people, at least my closest friends, i might end up alone and this thought really scares me.

i guess sometimes we should let our guard down if we really want to establish meaningful and deep relationships with other people.

i wish you all the best.

[Taylormidnights in reply to littlefreak1]

ThanThank u

[designguy]

Hello Miley, it is possible to recover from social anxiety. If you can, find a therapist that specializes in treating it. For whatever reasons you have learned beliefs and perceptions about yourself and others that aren't true. You may also be suffering from low-self-esteem and low-self-worth which can cause or contribute to social anxiety. There is a lot of good info on youtube about it and how to heal it for yourself. Another helpful thing is to determine how and why you developed social anxiety. In my case mine developed from bullying in school and growing up in an emotionally repressive and abusive household. As a result I also had c-ptsd trauma from the bullying and worked with a trauma specialist who used emdr therapy which was very helpful.

[Taylormidnights in reply to designguy]

I hahavehahave anxiety because of trauma

[designguy in reply to Taylormidnights]

Thats too bad but i'm not surprised. If you can, try to find a therapist that specializes in treating trauma if you are not already. Best to you.

[Tigerlilly7]

hello, your not alone in feeling like this.

im exactly the same.

People have to earn trust.

I’m trying to work on the social phobia by going out my comfort zone and trying to interact with people. It’s hard I’m not going to lie. Like it feels easier to be alone most times. However us humans don’t like to be alone for too long we need the interaction.

So my advice is to try do things out your comfort zone. Baby steps. Maybe try smiling at a stranger for example to start.

I can’t really advice how to get over this as I’m going through the same myself

[Taylormidnights in reply to Tigerlilly7]

Yes true. I hate going out of my comfort zone

[Matchaloves]

I have social anxiety. It’s been there all my life as well. I to was bullied at a young age and had image issues. As a teen bullying followed me.

I spiraled out of control. Hanging with the opposite crowd just to feel wanted. That’s when my trust issues started.I didn’t know who to trust or who would stick around for long.

I was very good at hiding it for so many years. Having a job dealing with the public helped me suppress those feelings. The familiar place and coworkers. This always makes me feel better when things are familiar.

Since the pandemic I was not working it has been difficult for me to get back into the public. Recently I had a meltdown trying to do my regular shopping trip.

I felt I was trapped in the store and had no way out. I walked around the store trying to find a safe place to reflect on how I was feeling. I felt everyone was judging me and staring at me. I was done shopping and I wanted to go home. I couldn’t bring myself to the counter to check out.

I finally had the courage to get myself to the line. I just couldn’t and I left. I was so anxious and red but relieved I was in my car. I broke down wondering what just happened. I’ve been trying to take small trips to the store just to get comfortable again. I’m still working on this. I have good days and some I feel I failed.

[gajh in reply to Matchaloves]

Matchaloves I think it is amazing that you have been trying to take small trips to the store. Please don't beat yourself up. Please don't say you failed. You are still out there trying. That is so courageous. Celebrate any small victories. You actually managed to do your shopping. That is a great first step. You will be able to do it. Just keep trying, but be gentle with yourself.